Yes I'm not having a good day at all today. Overheating myself furnishing our holiday house while yelling at my husband for stressing me out and pushing my buttons during the 2ww. I said you just don't want us to have kids, do you, before breaking down. Feeling crampy and low today. Hate this out of control feeling Sorry girls, rant over.
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Last edited by Butterfly39; 27-06-2014 at 14:34.
Butterfly39. Sounds like fun at your house right now. - not lol. @AAA I'm sorry I know its emotional and stressful on the tww but what an image. Your poor ol man. How do they put up with us...?
This will probably be my last update for a while now. I had my appointment today to get the donor egg rundown, and basically it goes like this:
$15,000 out of pocket - and probably 12 months before I get a donor, bub in around 2 years. I'll be 44 and DP 46. Cringe.
$10,000 if I use my own donor. I will get it all done maybe 6 to 9 months quicker, so not a huge time saving but a $5000 cost saving
I'll book in for the first counselling session in a week or two, then I have a 3 month cooling off period, then I wait. There are only about 4 people on the wait list , and I don't go to the end of the list because I've already been with them for some time. My wait could be as short as 9 months until transfer date, but up to 2 years - they doubt very much it will be this long.
Considering that the money doesn't even come into it for me now (thanks to my dear, dear, dear brother gifting me the ivf costs from now on THANK GOD) I'm thinking I will probably go the anon donor for the $5000 extra and a slightly longer wait. I think I'd be just a bit more comfortable not seeing my friends features on my own bub. Plus, I have a 5% chance of falling pregnant naturally each month so thats still 1 in 20. Not that bad really so the time won't be completely wasted. Any chance to have my own genes in that cot is better than none !!!
I'm uncomfortable with our ages by the time we finally hope to become parents, but what do you do. Be 'old parents'. Thats what we do
I had a breakthrough with DP this week All along he's been saying to do 'whatever makes me happy'. If I want to keep trying he will support me, but if not, he will still be ok with that but disappointed. I asked him if he thought I should just give up and he FINALLY said he wanted me to continue trying if it wasn't cutting me up too much ! Hallelulah.. he is so hard to get any emotional output from !! I nearly fell off the couch when he said that. It gives me a whole other wind in my sails now.
I will check in a bit over the next few weeks, but am pleased to see the end of my IVF dramas for a bit so won't keep up with this thread for much longer. I hope and pray that you all get the miracle we so desperately want - and I hope I see NONE of you on the IVF forums when I finally get back on. You better all be on the 'due date' forums !!
PS, got a new kitten yesterday. Will try him as best I can with my hostile hag of a cat. He is so ridiculously affectionate and cruisy, she is so ridiculously haggy and hateful! I've made peace with the fact that if it doesnt look like it'll work I'll take him back to the rspca but no more than a few weeks while he's still young and let them keep the $125 refund to appease my guilt. I can only try
@leyshoja best of luck with the donor process. I know what you mean abou the 'whatever makes you happy' or 'whatever you want' sounds nice in theory but really you want to know their thoughts/wishes too. Glad your DH was able to express his and that they are the same as yours. Go for it!
Congrats on pupo @Bellydance hope this is the cycle for you I agree 'do what you want' or 'whatever you want' just makes you feel like they don't care one way or the other and ends up making you feel even more alone. @leyshoja I'm so glad your partner is behind you with this and it has energised your determination. Good luck with the donor route, that kid is going to be so loved and spoilt that age really doesn't matter.
@AAA oh we all have days like that I started stimming this week and had a shocker of a day yesterday. Really worried that this round is going to hit me hard and I have very little optimism left. It does feel out of control doesn't it? My eyes kept welling up at work and I had to just not think about IVF and I'm not normally a teary person. Insensitive partners definitely don't help! Pushing buttons while on hormones might result in a frying pan to the face.......
good luck everyone, so sorry for the BFN @Chiefsgirl I have been reading along.....
Last edited by Bongley; 27-06-2014 at 16:08.
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