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    Default Crying for mummy😥😥😥

    Hi everyone, just a question.
    My dd is 15 months and I am a SAHM. I take her with me everywhere. Shops, appointments etc. I never ever leave her at my mums/mother in law unless it's a complete necessity. It's not that I don't trust anyone it's just they both have busy lives and so far I havnt struggled having her with me. Being home I tend to stretch things that need to be done over so many days so if I do need to go out it's only for short trips which helps her not have a meltdown (so far) lol

    So last night I went out for a girls night for the first time since August last year. Dh was home looking after her but since the person picking me up was late and dd was extremely tired I ended up putting her to sleep before I left which was only 20min earlier than her usual bedtime. She went down within 1 min so I'm guessing she was very very tired. Then I left.
    My dh text me at 9.30pn that dd woke and noticed it wasn't me who went to shush and pat her back (my dh never goes in) and that was it. Her world came crashing down and cried for mummy for 1 hour! By this point I was ready to leave and go home as I felt so much guilt it was not worth the outing. Anyways after a lot of calming and then a bit of playing I came home at 12.30am to find them both in bed crashed out. Apparently she crashed about 11.30pm.

    Sorry such a long post but my question is is this normal? Will she grow out of it? I honestly don't mind her always wanting me when I'm at home but I now am completely put off eveing thinking of doing anything with the girls ever again. I felt so guilty it was just not worth it. I guess she didn't hold a grudge as I got a big kiss and hug this morning... 😊😊

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    Yes I think its normal, you are the only one looking after her. I think the only way to combat the issue is to have your dh help out with bed time more.

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    I agree, normal my DH doesn't really help with bedtimes either because I BF to sleep. So when DH has to put him to sleep or resettle it takes a little longer.

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    Thanks for responses. I guess if dh did bedtime a few times might help with the situation

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    I know what you're feeling. I left DS for the first time at 20 mths a month ago as DH & I had to go to a funeral. He cried for ages. He was with his Aunty whom he adores & is comfortable with but he didn't like that mummy wasn't there. Fast forward to yesterday & we left him again with the same Aunty & there were no tears & just happy faces, even waved me goodbye happily. We put some time into the last month of letting him get used to Aunty doing things for him & him being familiar with her in the 'care-giver' role. It paid off. So, yes, I agree, let DH do bedtime sometimes & it will be easier next time. I thought I'd never leave DS again after the first time but now it's enjoyable for him & me.


 

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