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    Sometimes.

    We get out a lot. Even if it's just doing the shopping or taking myself out for a coffee. We have mothers group weekly plus group fitness training with mums and bubs twice a week. Then I have school runs, house work, the occasional catchup with a friend or relative as well as I pop in and have lunch or coffee with DF whenever I can and I haves few hobbies I come back to when I get a chance. So I think if I didn't deliberately fill my weeks I would get much more lonely.

    I think somedays I feel it more but I have noticed it's worse when I feel a bit taken for granted or if DF and I have had a bad patch in our relationship. I'm not as happy in general so it highlights how isolating being a SAHM can be.

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    No, bored sometimes with no adult conversation, but lonely, no, DS is with me all day!

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    I've been a SAHM at intervals and never, ever felt lonely. I actually do spend a lot of time alone (or with DS) but I like that, and I'm always busy and the days fly by. I just don't ever get lonely. In fact, being around people too often annoys me. Strange I suppose.

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    When I was a SAHM I was a bit lonely. I lived with mum for the first 18 monthes of ds life as I was a single mum. She was a wonderful nan to ds but spent a lot of time in her room as she suffered from depression. I basically had no friends as the ones I had prior to ds were childless and we couldn't really relate to each other anymore. My mothers group was full of fairy snobby woman who weren't really interested in me being poor and single. I did connect with one lovely mum though and we are friends to this day. I started work when ds was a year old . I took him to swimming lessons and gymbaroo and tried to keep busy. Could I ever be a full time SAHM mum again though? Probably not. It works for some people though.

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    I'm more lonely as a mum working full time than what I was as a sahm. I'm out the door at 7 am every morning, home at 5 where I cook dinner, feed, bath, play/read with and bed DS. Finally get to sit down at 730 to have some dinner. By time I cleanup and prepare everything for the next day it's 10pm. Come the weekend I have housework, groceries and some family time. My life is busy, I don't have time for seeing anyone during the week, weekend just fly by. Suddenly friends are few and far between, but I can understand why, they never see me.

    I have adult company at work but it's 95% business. My job is fairly high pressured, if I stop for breaks I don't get stuff done, there's not much socialising.

    My husband works late so by time he gets home, I'm ready for bed.

    Sorry OP, it's not really answering your question! I think this mothering gig can be lonely in both circumstances.

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    Quote Originally Posted by cheekychook View Post
    I'm more lonely as a mum working full time than what I was as a sahm. I'm out the door at 7 am every morning, home at 5 where I cook dinner, feed, bath, play/read with and bed DS. Finally get to sit down at 730 to have some dinner. By time I cleanup and prepare everything for the next day it's 10pm. Come the weekend I have housework, groceries and some family time. My life is busy, I don't have time for seeing anyone during the week, weekend just fly by. Suddenly friends are few and far between, but I can understand why, they never see me.

    I have adult company at work but it's 95% business. My job is fairly high pressured, if I stop for breaks I don't get stuff done, there's not much socialising.

    My husband works late so by time he gets home, I'm ready for bed.

    Sorry OP, it's not really answering your question! I think this mothering gig can be lonely in both circumstances.
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    Some of the issues that have been raised in this thread such as anxiety, no close friends, family not nearby, would perhaps haven existed to the same extend whether someone is working or not.

    I no longer interact with my colleagues or clients but as a sahm I have the same number of friends, in fact I have more and I still interact with my family to the same extent as when I was working.

    I know some people suffer from psychological illnesses such as pnd and anxiety, but if you put those cases to one side, I don't understand why being a sahm is isolating. There is so much more time to spend with friends and family once work is taken out of the equation.
    Some of us don't live near friends and family. Some of us aren't that outgoing and able to just make new friends. Some of us live in areas without instant access to new social circles. Some of us don't drive. Some of us have friends whose work/family commitments conflict with our free time.

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    Yep. Definitely. I think in a different time/ culture/ societies, mums would be constantly surrounded by people.

    I often wish my 'tribe' were around when the little one is wanting to be held and I just need to have a wee/ mop the floor/ hide and eat chocolate.

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