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    Is it wrong to say I'm jealous? I work and have two very full on small kids. I'd love to have the space and time to get bored or lonely - probably not always - but I'd love to try it for a week or so............... I think I am going to crack if my head gets filled up with any more stuff.

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    Yes I do, not so much now because school drop off and pick up helps break the day up, especially when I have kinder pick up as well. I also suffered anxiety and that made things really bad but I have had that under control for a few months now and it has made the world of difference. I have also made a few friends through the school and kinder and have family close by that will accept me hanging around for a couple of hours when I am feeling down so this has all really helped also. On the downside I live in a small town with no activities like story time, etc. When my first was a baby and I was in a town where I knew no one it was very lonely.

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    Not so much lonely but I get very bored.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Stretched View Post
    Did you find it harder in the early days with your first child? I know I did but once I'd found a playgroup that was a fit for me and a few other mummy social opportunities it became a lot easier.

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    I think any first time mum would find those early days difficult, it's all new to us first time round. My first ds had reflux and weight gain issues so yes those first months were difficult but once they passed it was all good. I also live away from family therefore had no one to call on for help if I did need time out but my dh is very hands on which I am lucky to have. I think how you cope also depends on the type of person you are in a lot of ways. I generally cope well with anything and being a mother, I just found I had to get on with things rather than complain about it.

    Ds2 was very easy, I knew a lot more by then therefore was a lot more content and relaxed. I also have a 3 year gap in between which is fantastic. And my dh started working away after we had ds2. You just get in a routine and manage. That's just me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DesperatelySeekingSleep View Post
    Luck has to run out eventually and that's when things become ironic.

    I get very lonely and frustrated being a sahm. I don't get the break away from the house on my own that dp gets every day and he just doesn't understand. No matter how much I try to explain it. He also doesn't understand how isolating it is to not have anyone close by babysit for a couple hours or to not be able to go to the toilet on my own without interruption.

    My daily adult interaction is also bubhub or Facebook.
    I think it's more the type of person you are more than luck really in regards to how you cope in a majority of cases.

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    Not so much lonely, more trapped and frustrated. Lets be honest, socializing sure isn't the same as pre-children! It usually involves socializing with a whining bub in tow and stunted conversations that don't ever feel like you've really caught up (especially if the person you're catching up with has kids as well). Sometimes it feels like too much effort and staying at home is easier so you start to lose touch with the people you used to see. I'm not sure if i'll ever get used to that. Being a full time SAHM is so exhausting sometimes i just feel like i don't have any energy left to socialize.

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    No i don't. I have a great mothers group/playgroup and have lots of playdates so if i need time away from the house it's easy to organise. I've just started back at part time work but my kid has so much energy and only has very short catnaps so i don't get time to be bored or feel lonely.

    I think getting out to do child related stuff can help, being stuck at home all the time probably does get lonely.

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    No, and I don't get bored either. 3 kids keeps me plenty busy

    I have a good balance between my kids, my house, socialising and me time and I'm loving it. I couldn't imagine not being a stay at home mum. I'm just sad that it will be over soon when they are all at school

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jarylee View Post
    No, and I don't get bored either. 3 kids keeps me plenty busy

    I have a good balance between my kids, my house, socialising and me time and I'm loving it. I couldn't imagine not being a stay at home mum. I'm just sad that it will be over soon when they are all at school
    I've got 3 kids and I get bored of it. Yep, I'm very busy, and I do things for me like going to the gym, but I was ready to go back to work part time.
    Everybody's different.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BigRedV View Post
    I've got 3 kids and I get bored of it. Yep, I'm very busy, and I do things for me like going to the gym, but I was ready to go back to work part time.
    Everybody's different.
    I agree.

    Its a different kind of bored and lonely. I crave mental stimulation, adult conversation. I want to have a conversation that isnt about kids. I want to feel like more than just a mum. Its just unfortunate that our situation means work isnt an option just yet. I am lucky to be able to be a full time SAHM but I dont always enjoy feeling alone and isolated during the day.

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