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    ive been a mum for almost 10 years, never once did mothers group, play group etc and RARELY do lunch with people (only if im childless) the only time i leave the house during the week is for therapies and grocery shopping. why? million reasons. my kids dont cope with much of the above, they dont cope with sitting still while i chat to other people and they dont cope due to the issues that come with having their disabilities. my ds#2 begs to go home repeatedly when i do take him out because its just too much for him.

    life is isolating. i cant just magically make my kids ok. i cant and honestly dont want to spend time out of the house just to spend that time trying to calm the kids or stop them from screaming and losing their sh1t, it's not fun its stressful and upsetting.

    most of the time i accept lonelyness because honestly i can only tolerate being around people for a short amount of time anyways. other times it feels like the worst thing in the world.

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    it's nart black and white folks. think outside your existence for a minute or two eh?

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    Yes I live very rural..do playgroup mon and wed and I'm a fifo wife. I'm very lonely
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    Quote Originally Posted by BigRedV View Post
    I've got 3 kids and I get bored of it. Yep, I'm very busy, and I do things for me like going to the gym, but I was ready to go back to work part time.
    Everybody's different.
    Your spot on, everybody is different! For me personally I just go dont get bored. I have always been that way though with anything not just when it comes to being a stay at home mum. Everything in life is about finding a balance and that balance is different for everyone

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jarylee View Post
    Your spot on, everybody is different! For me personally I just go dont get bored. I have always been that way though with anything not just when it comes to being a stay at home mum. Everything in life is about finding a balance and that balance is different for everyone
    That's true. I get bored (maybe bored is the wrong word, restless or unchallenged may be more appropriate) very easily.

    I've also always been very social and intentionally chosen jobs where I get to interact with a lot of people.

    So while I don't find it 'hard' when I am a SAHM, I do find the loneliness challenging and I found it took a little while to work out my mummy-style social life.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Stretched View Post
    That's true. I get bored (maybe bored is the wrong word, restless or unchallenged may be more appropriate) very easily.

    I've also always been very social and intentionally chosen jobs where I get to interact with a lot of people.

    So while I don't find it 'hard' when I am a SAHM, I do find the loneliness challenging and I found it took a little while to work out my mummy-style social life.

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    Yeh, I think bored is the wrong word. Mundane is how I find it being home full time.

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    Quote Originally Posted by TeBe View Post
    Some of the issues that have been raised in this thread such as anxiety, no close friends, family not nearby, would perhaps haven existed to the same extend whether someone is working or not.

    I no longer interact with my colleagues or clients but as a sahm I have the same number of friends, in fact I have more and I still interact with my family to the same extent as when I was working.

    I know some people suffer from psychological illnesses such as pnd and anxiety, but if you put those cases to one side, I don't understand why being a sahm is isolating. There is so much more time to spend with friends and family once work is taken out of the equation.
    Not for me
    All of my friends and family, except for my parents, work full time. They live a 40 minute drive away. So during the week if I'm home (sometimes do relief teaching), I don't know anyone in the area I can socialize with. In fact, I don't know anyone in the entire city - except my parents - who I can socialize with the majority of the time as they're working.

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    With regard to the original question OP: yes.
    Technically I work casually, but I'm working very little at this point. I love spending time with my daughter, and we usually spend most of the day out. However, I REALLY need to interact with people to feel sane. By far the easiest way for me to do that is through my work. For that reason, I think I'd be a lot happier with some regular work. Currently working on it.

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    Yep I get lonely and even though I am busy I get incredibly bored. This time round though I know what I'm
    In for so I hope I am going to be able to better manage my mat leave experience (less cleaning, more movies/coffee/Skype calls/shopping/catching up with friends).

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    Quote Originally Posted by IndigoJ View Post
    Yes I live very rural..do playgroup mon and wed and I'm a fifo wife. I'm very lonely
    I don't know how FIFO wives cope, I would go nuts.

    *** when typing FIFO I made a small typo and my phone corrected it to Dildo

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