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    A couple mths ago I went to my gp and had a mental health plan arranged as well as prescribed anti depressants.
    I was already seeing a psychologist previously, who is wonderful and helping me with my "anxiety, depression, general life issues".
    however, he has no idea about pnd - which I'm also suffering 3 years on after the birth of my first. The mental health nurse at my gp clinic advised me to seek counselling with a mother-baby clinic that specialises with pnd.
    That was 3 weeks ago and I am basically scared ****tless to phone them to make an appt. my psych supports me in making the appt but also understands the anxiety attatched.
    I feel stupid.
    3 yeas on and I still can get it right. Why did I let it go on so long. My kids have suffered more than me. I'm selfish. im scared....of being judged.

    does anyone have experience in the pnd mother baby support area?

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    Can your gp gp nurse or psych call for you? I have just been diagnosed with ante natal anxiety/ocd and got referred to perinatal mental health service. My midwife and dr both phone for me, I missed the call and was hesisitant to call back but I did and glad I did have my first appointment tomorrow and looking forward to it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mummy12 View Post
    Can your gp gp nurse or psych call for you? I have just been diagnosed with ante natal anxiety/ocd and got referred to perinatal mental health service. My midwife and dr both phone for me, I missed the call and was hesisitant to call back but I did and glad I did have my first appointment tomorrow and looking forward to it.


    No they they gave me the referral and said to go In person or call. It's 5mins away from my home. So can do either. I just don't even know what to say to them. Very hesitant. Didn't think to ask psych, although I am a grown adult, I should just be able to do this, right?

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    I think it's really important that you make that call, LMM. You've been struggling for a while now, as you say. I understand that it's hard. I have huge social anxiety when it comes to using the phone. The invention of SMS was a godsend for me! Maybe your first step could be deciding whether you call or visit? Then take it from there? If you phone, would it help to have what you want to say written down? The other suggestion I have is to maybe google them and see if they have an email address. You could then write to them and explain you are anxious about phoning and see if either they can call you instead, or maybe they can book you in by email? Fwiw, I think they would be used to women feeling anxious about making contact, and would be very nurturing and supportive.

    I'm so proud of you for seeking help for yourself. It takes strength. Please let us know if we can support you in any way x

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    Please don't feel stupid I totally empathise with the depression, anxiety, PND and the whole phone thing. I HATE making phone calls for appointments, for anything really but I've gotten a lot better in the last few years.

    The clinic will help, they won't judge you for how long it's been, they won't blame you for not ringing sooner (I used to have this irrational anxiety over being told off for doing things wrong). In terms of what to say, I have often (and still sometimes do, if I'm stressed) use a script that I practice - I know I sound like a freak, but it helps! Something as simple as

    "Hi, my name is X, I'm ringing because I have a referral from my psych and I was wanting to make an appointment with someone to talk about my PND" and go from there.

    I promise you'll feel better when it's over xx

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    Where are you? I spent some time in a mother baby unit in Brisbane.. It was a life saver. Another thing you might want to think about is a mental health day program which is something I also did which I found really beneficial.

    If your not strong enough or in too bad a place to call, have a loved one do it for you. My dh and mum did all the organising for me... As I was unable to talk to anyone at the time.

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    Maybe just call and I would like to make an appointment I have a referral from my dr. The receptionist doesn't need to know any details of what the treatment is for

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    And another thing...
    Go easy on yourself.
    I was still having regular relapses right up until about a year ago.
    There's no shame in mental health issues and there are thousands of women out there experiencing the exact same thing...


 

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