Last edited by Anon1234; 03-06-2014 at 21:59.
Hi! In my experience and ex (as you have described him) will try to make you appear mentally unstable anyway. I have been diagnosed with PTSD as a result of my ex husbands behaviour and this will go against him- not me. Keep with your psych, don't miss appointments and if you need meds- take them. Document everything to show his behaviour. Managing your anxiety is a good thing in the eyes of the court. Good luck
My lawyer told me to be up front about any mental illness and that way there are no surprises if medical information is subpoenaed by the opposing side. So in my affidavit to the court it outlined my mental health issues and how I was currently fairing.
That you are getting treatment and seeing a psychologist will be in your favour.
You might also find that when you are no longer living with him, your anxiety may reduce.
Last edited by Anon1234; 03-06-2014 at 21:58.
Please don't take what I say as gospel truth because I'm not 100%, but I am quite sure that taking any kind of anxiety, depression, etc medication cannot affect court or mediation unless you are emotionally unstable and neglecting or abusing the children. Court will generally look favourable on you seeking help for your mental health instead of punishing you. Being a person with depression or anxiety is not a crime and it does not mean you're not an excellent parent.
However if you are using the medication improperly or not via doctors directions (i.e. taking so many valium you are out of your brain) or they are impairing your ability to look after the kids it could be a problem. He also needs to be able to demonstrate these accusations. This is not the case for you.
Good luck OP, I hope you find what you're looking for and it sounds like you've really got your get away plan worked out.
I would possibly seek out the advice of a family lawyer because it sounds like this could go pear shaped and you definitely want to have all of your bases covered. Lawyers are experts and I am certainly not so sorry if my advice is no good to you.
I am on anxiety meds AND I also work in a family law firm and let me assure you that this will NOT go against you in court.
As a PP said, be proactive in looking after your health, take any meds prescribed, and look after yourself. your medical professionals are able to write a letter stating your fitness as a parent and it is not looked at ANY differently to you being a parent on blood pressure medication.
Trust me, the courts are used to seeing accusations of unfit parenting thrown about. It happens in nearly every case where parenting orders have to be made.
My suggestion would be take the meds, continue being proactive in your health and make an appointment to see an accredited family law specialist before you actually leave in case they have any further information.
Sorry to just jump on in but I would suggest speaking to a local family violence service. They will be able to provide you with the best tips and advice on what to take, how to prepare to leave, how to keep safe, how to manage documents so they are not sent to your old address and many many other things including putting you in touch with a solicitor experienced in these kinds of legal matters.
Keep a diary, talk to your psych and your medical professionals. Be very clear with them about what is going on.
He may threaten you by suggesting he will get your children however plenty of parents with mental illness care for their children and are beautiful, caring parents. Get in touch with professionals in the know and take their advice.
I wish you all the very best
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