I have a mr just turned 3 who is becoming a really angry lil guy who is lashing out at his sister and myself more and more at the moment, hitting, pulling hair and occassionally biting hard enough to draw blood. In the last year we left our home due to domestic violence. It was a really upsetting time for us all and mr 3 was really upset by it (obviously) and i have worked really hard to establish a safe home and for us to feel safe, we have solid routines and some things have gotten better in the last few months. Things like he is sleeping well in his own bed again through the night, he toilet trained himself 4 weeks ago and is completely dry overnight too. He has had less issues at childcare with behaviour but at home he is just so ready to be angry and frustrated, im at a bit of a loss of what to do. I use 'time-in' as discipline which was suggested to me by a psychologist we saw when we first left, because he can't be left alone. but he just doesnt seem to care about that anymore and has lost its effect. He doesnt have a huge attachment to any toys except one teddy and his pillow pet and blanky but taking those away is extremely distressing (i took away pillow pet for one night and it took 4 hours to settle him for bed).
has anyone been through anything similar? any ideas how to discipline? (i don't/won't smack). thanks in advance for any ideas