Can't believe the posts on here! Shocking
Here are a few of mine..
-From a nurse on the maternity ward on hearing my 4 day old ds cry: "Did you hold your baby much today or did you have visitors hold him? If you hold babies too much they get wind and won't sleep".
-From a nurse in the Intensive Care Unit when she spotted me stroking my babies forehead while he was in the humidicrib: "Don't touch him like that, babies don't like being touched much. It just annoys them. If you want to touch him just put you hand on him and don't move it".
-From my MIL: "Breastfed babies will never sleep through the night because they need formula".
-From my previous doctor while 36weeks pregnant: "You need to watch what you eat because your babies head is measuring large. Just cut back on the choclate"
Firm touch not feather.When your baby is born, your first instinct will probably be that you want to touch him or her. This is completely natural. Your instinct may be to gently stroke the baby. Please fight this urge. An extremely premature baby can be sensitive to touch. Well, when you think that they should still be in the womb for another four months it’s hardly surprising. If your baby is laying prone (on their front) then gently and making sure your hands are not cold, place your hand on the baby’s back. As we said before it should be quite a firm touch. If this is not always something that you feel comfortable doing you could always put your finger in your baby’s hand.
Last edited by atomicmama; 26-04-2014 at 18:38.
Last edited by Koarlo; 26-04-2014 at 22:27.
I think I've been really lucky and nobody has given me any particularly stupid advice, but it is so scary that bad advice is so prevalent and quite often from 'authority figures'! Makes you wonder how many sleep deprived and vulnerable mums are taking stuff like this at face value....
My MIL has some really awesome comments for me and my SIL who had a baby 2 months after me. Things like "you need to just let her cry in the car. She needs to learn that she cant manipulate you." (said about my DD when she was born till she was about 8 months and didn't need such frequent feeds. And she only ever cried if she was hungry or scared). Another was "just tap him on the hand and tell him no. He needs to learn." (in reference to SIL's DS who is just learning to stand and used a fire extinguisher to pull himself up on).
There is also "I just put him in the cot/pram when I cant be bothered to follow him around the house anymore" (cause baby proofing your house and shutting some doors is too hard).
By far the two worst is arguing with me that it is mean to eat something in front of a baby and not give them some. Ahhh, no I think its meaner to give a refluxy baby things like cheesecake and maccas softserves and make him chuck all the next day than to swap the rubbish out with a piece of fruit. And when she told me I knew nothing about kids cause I told her that DD wouldn't ever be walking around my house with food. I smiled sweetly and replied "I work in childcare, I know lots about kids."
But then, as she said to my mother behind my back one day I "have funny ideas about raising kids". Luckily unlike her I am only trying to raise my own kid and not everyone elses so it really doesn't matter if my ideas (babywearing, natural products and food where possible etc) are funny. My poor SIL though.
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