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    Default Feeling at a complete loss. DS always sick.... refuses vegetables, vitamin supps.

    I just feel helpless. My toddler (2 years old) is extremely strong willed, like his father. And a shocking patient when he is unwell - like his father. He has his father's "Illness rage" and when it comes to giving him medicine, vitamins... anything... its a major struggle and he fights tooth and nail. Its seriously ridiculous. There is no reasoning with him. Bribing... nothing works. He gets so MAD and will fight to the death.

    He refuses to eat all vegetables, and only eats fruit occasionally.

    He is in day care 2x a week - and he is constantly sick. He has had 2 bouts of croup back to back in the last 2 weeks. And now to finish off the croup he had over Easter, he now has a bad cold - which i now have too.

    He's such a picky bloody eater and he only wants to eat bread, and meats. He likes lamb chicken and fish. But with whatever i cook he picks out the meat, and leaves the rest. If i try mashing up the vegetables, and hiding them - he just plain wont eat.

    I am at my wits end. He wont let me help him and i feel like a failure of a mother.

    I am certain my work is going to come down on me again as I have had to take time off a fair bit lately due to DS being so sick.

    Is there someone I should go see other than his GP? Is there a specialist i should go see? He gets croup all the damn time!! DH and I are professionals with dealing with croup now.

    I just don't know anymore. I really feel frustrated, scared and helpless.

    He was born 8 weeks prem ... so im presuming that has a lot to do with the constant croup maybe.

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    You are not alone.
    My DS (same age) is exactly the same. I had a very difficult year last year with constant illness and hospital visits. I feel like the illnesses contributed to his fussy eating (he had a lot of throat infections). My only advice is not to fight him over the food. Always offer variety and if he doesn't want it, just take it away. Since we stopped with fighting it has actually calmed down. My DS wouldn't even try new food and it really got me down. We encouraged him to use his fingers and that seems to have helped. We also cut down on snacks throughout the day so he was hungry by dinner. Unfortunately with daycare comes illness. The first year is rough but it does get better. I have started using multivitamins but not sure if they have helped. Worth a try.
    I have no advice about the croup but I would imagine it feels pretty terrible. Try to good old puréed food which might help. Otherwise lots of love and cuddles. Good luck

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    I would try put a pro biotic on his milk/drink daily and also a fish oil/vit D if you can - he is probably just at that fussy stage and it is tough when you are sick as you do go off your food -
    would he drink a smoothie ( yogurt/milk/strawberries/baby spinach/pro biotic powder and fish oil all mixed in?)

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    Thanks moosey

    I don't actually fight at all when it comes to food, he had been very good at feeding himself since about 7 months... he took very well to BLW... he is a very independant eater. But what comes with that is complete refusal of veggies.

    I just take it away ... and then try to give him vitamin supps... which is even more of a disaster.

    Well it sounds like im not alone. I hope as he gets older, he listens to me more and realises i am only trying to love and keep him well.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Elijahs Mum View Post
    I would try put a pro biotic on his milk/drink daily and also a fish oil/vit D if you can - he is probably just at that fussy stage and it is tough when you are sick as you do go off your food -
    would he drink a smoothie ( yogurt/milk/strawberries/baby spinach/pro biotic powder and fish oil all mixed in?)
    Oh i forgot to mention, he refuses milk all together now since i stopped his bottles! I sort of at times feel like bringing the bottles back in just to get the vites and fish oils etc into him.

    Smoothies i haven't tried! Oh my god i am an idiot. Ill prob have to use frozen yogurt though.... he has decided he doesn't like plain yogurt and milk now. Just to add to my stress.

    Its hard though, he quite switched on so when lately i try to introduce new things he is so suss on me.... he thinks i am trying to poison him i think!

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    Is there any reason why you stopped the bottles? If he will drink milk from a bottle that would be another avenue for fluids, the nutrients of milk and maybe smoothies in the future. My DS had bottles until he was 3.5. It was only 1 per day - his morning coffee (he was a complete grump in the morning until he had had his bottle).

    What about freezing fruit juice and making ice-poles? If that worked you could get mix some veggie juice with the fruit juice? It's not ideal but the more avenues you have the easier it will be.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Busy-Bee View Post
    Is there any reason why you stopped the bottles? If he will drink milk from a bottle that would be another avenue for fluids, the nutrients of milk and maybe smoothies in the future.
    Absolutely! Nothing wrong with a bottle especially if he is getting something into him. Have you thought about sustagen? Not sure what age you can give it but may be worth adding to a bottle or adding it to smoothies also until you can slowly add fruits.

    Btw you're not a failure

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    Hmm ... maybe i will bring back 1 bottle a day .... the maternal health nurse was horrified when i told her he was still on 2 bottles a day at his 2 year check up. She told me he should be drinking milk only from a cup. But now he doesn't want milk at all.

    I like the icypole idea he loves icy poles, ice blocks etc!! Great idea!

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    Hi! Sorry as I haven't read other posts.

    Take him to a good pead. Get him checked for whopping cough just in case, sometimes young kids don't get the whoop and immunised kids can get it but not as badly. Get him checked for allergies and have them check his tonsils/adenoids.

    Try vita gummies and tell him they're lollies. I really love the natures own ones. Nearly eat the whole bottle.

    I wouldn't stress about veggies for a bit. It seems normal for kids not to like them. I'd give both of you some space for a bit and then gradually introduce/hide them once the battle lines are gone.

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    Just to add more frustration to the ordeal - he also doesn't think much of lollies. He only likes ice cream and chocolate. I wish they'd make vitamin choccies.

    I am now realising i have an especially picky child. He never used to be ... since hitting terrible two's.... its all gone down hill.


 

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