I really don't think I will be going. TBH I'm not very happy. This family I have known for a long time (since we were kids) and the birthday kid is an only child.
Because I have to travel a fair distance (over 1.5 hours each way), would be expected to supply a gift AND BYO my own food for my crew I think I'll decline.
I don't understand. It doesn't take much to throw some sausages on the barbie and buy a box of cheezels! I would never consider inviting people to a function and then telling them they have to cater themselves! Ah, I dunno. I know it's unfair on the birthday child but I would dare say we won't be the only invitees declining after being told to pay for ourselves 2 years in a row.