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    Default Freaking nits and Dfs ex!

    So df and I have Dd (9 months) together Nd also have 2 out of 3 of his sons living with us. No 3 son comes over every weekend and time during holidays. The two living with us usually don't go over there but before holidays spent the few weekends there and first week of holidays and last night. Every time they come home (or 3rd step son comes over) they are riddled with nits. This morning I picked one out of DDs hair an that was the final straw. I lost it at DF and told him to rin her an tell her to pull her finger out of her dawn @ss! He didn't but I understand why. The last few weeks after they come home after visiting we treat hair, comb, wash bedding and spray mattresses with Tea Tree oil mix also sending Step son 3 home with spare treatments for her to use on him and her daughter (older than Dfs boys.) Still not has changed. I'm ready to cracked it at her. We have had a few problems with her previously but none overly effected the kids. DSS that lives with her left the other day and had sores on his head from so much scratching. I treat their hair constantly but if we are going to beat them she has to do her bit.

    Sorry about the vent but how do we get her to do something? Any ideas welcome. I just don't under stand why she won't do anything about it! Surely she has them too by now. Arrh !

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    I completely understand as we are in the same boat as you but with only 1 child of DF to worry about.

    We have DSC even time so now we just check hair as soon as his child is home we treat and comb. That way we know our environment is clean still.

    You can beat your head against a wall but things will never change. It's a pita but we do what we have to for our kids.

    DF just writes if all in his diary when nits have come etc.

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    Thanks! Sucks your in same situation! Gives me the $hits! I just wanted understand why she does nothing. I mean... Surely she has them too? Isn't it horribly uncomfortable? I feel sorry for DSS 3 who lives with her. Every time he comes over there are more and more sores from picking and scratching his head.

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    Yep I'm the same and just decided I can let it eat at me or try and ignore it as We have no control over the situation when DSC isn't in our care and can only do what's best as soon as DSC walks back through our door and show we care by treating the hair straight up.

    So far so good and there's not been nits again.

    It had been so bad that the next time it happens I'll pay a nit lady locally to get rid of them so that way we have receipt of someone actually seeing them and not just our word against hers.

    DSC recently came home to us and less then 48hrs later had a burst ear drum from an ear infection that had been left for weeks according to the specialist. Had been at the mothers for 3 weeks and she hadn't even bothered taking her own child to a dr.

    Not to count the times DSC has come home with hand foot and mouth, severe tonsillitis, conjunctivitis etc all untreated and there are other children in our household to think about too.

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    My kids usually get nits after being at their dads house. I'm not sure if he has them, he's got really bad personal hygiene so I doubt he'd notice. He also never makes them shower or brush their hair or teeth when dh and I get them back we check their hair, treat if necessary and cut their nails and make them shower, wash hair/teeth etc.

    It's sad that one parent seems to care so little about them

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    Quote Originally Posted by ClearCrystal View Post
    Yep I'm the same and just decided I can let it eat at me or try and ignore it as We have no control over the situation when DSC isn't in our care and can only do what's best as soon as DSC walks back through our door and show we care by treating the hair straight up.

    So far so good and there's not been nits again.

    It had been so bad that the next time it happens I'll pay a nit lady locally to get rid of them so that way we have receipt of someone actually seeing them and not just our word against hers.

    DSC recently came home to us and less then 48hrs later had a burst ear drum from an ear infection that had been left for weeks according to the specialist. Had been at the mothers for 3 weeks and she hadn't even bothered taking her own child to a dr.

    Not to count the times DSC has come home with hand foot and mouth, severe tonsillitis, conjunctivitis etc all untreated and there are other children in our household to think about too.
    OMG how could she not take them to the Dr! That is a good idea about the nit lady. Might look into that.

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    oh yuck ladies. my head feels itchy after reading bout it. lol. op, I'd just have a go at her seriously. some ppl are as thick as planks.

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    Quote Originally Posted by cluckcluck View Post
    My kids usually get nits after being at their dads house. I'm not sure if he has them, he's got really bad personal hygiene so I doubt he'd notice. He also never makes them shower or brush their hair or teeth when dh and I get them back we check their hair, treat if necessary and cut their nails and make them shower, wash hair/teeth etc.

    It's sad that one parent seems to care so little about them
    This upsets me too. I don't understand the complete disregard for her children's wellbeing. She's been another one to not take them to Dr's (nothing serious though), does not bother with brushing teeth and the one that annoys the absolute$hit out of me and df is when she drops them out the front and drives off,not checking they get inside fine or if we are eve home (she doesn't always call us). Last time this happened was almost 10 at night. I lost my mind at her. Aside from her and my differences there is no reason to leave HER children at risk! Grrr sorry for ranting.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Minchi View Post
    oh yuck ladies. my head feels itchy after reading bout it. lol. op, I'd just have a go at her seriously. some ppl are as thick as planks.
    Haha I like how you put that. It doesn't do any good though
    Both me an Df have spoken to her. Sometimes calmly sometimes less so buy it doesn't work sadly. I guess the best option is just to go back to less visits. She never asks to them it's just the boys as to go or us offering. It's just a ridiculous now....
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    Can you shave their heads?


 

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