I used it for my second. Mostly to get an idea on routines. It worked very well but we didn't started till 3 months. I didn't do her CIO but I did do dreamfeeds. Never followed her guidelines for blankets or time limits on breast feeds when little.
My 2 kids are both very different and I seriously doubt whether it would have worked with number 1. At almost 4 he is only just at the stage where he will recognise tired and put himself to bed.
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I've used it as a guideline for both girls, with a few tweaks to suit them (and me) - I never let them cry, instead patting and 'shh shh' if they're grizzling, picking up and cuddling if they did cry. Dd2 also has a dummy.
I was able to follow the routine to the tee with dd1 and have had to make the feed and sleep times more frequent for dd2. I also stopped the dreamfeed after a few days.
They have only ever cried when they're in pain, if they want something they would call out. They also both started sleeping through within a week of starting sos.
I recommend the book to people, but I do tell them the tweaks I made.
I suppose I think I get the gist of it reading reviews and info online about this book (and others). I am not saying its a terrible book or that I don't agree with anything that's said in it, just that I don't think it would suit me and my kids. From what I understand its quite routine based which is not what we do when our kids are young.
But you really can't have an understanding of it unless you have read it. I can't really decide if I like something unless I experience it. .. like you can tell me about a book you've read. . the plot. . the characters. .. But unless I read it I can't fully understand it for myself.
I don't ascribe to it myself, as I said. I found parts helpful. But lots of people have used it with great success. And shouldn't be made to feel bad about following her routines.
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I used SOS with both my girls. First one I started at about 4-5mo wen my hubby brought it home after I had a meltdown of having no sleep! I followed it religiously with my first and I swear by it. With my second I started introducing it at about 3mo but tweaked it a bit gentler. For example to get her used to self settling I started letting her put herself to sleep in the pram and swing. I then gradually started letting her self settle in her cot but used a dummy as an aid. I would let her grizzle if she was just tired but if she got upset then I would get her up and try again after about 10-15min. I had to go back to work when DD2 was 3.5 mo so needed her to learn to sleep on her own so that it would be less difficult for her starting daycare. It worked for us and she is one of the best sleepers in the babies room at 6mo. I think that there are things that every parent can take from it and use and you need to keep an open mind. It is the same as ANY parenting method. There are good and bad points to all and nobody has the right to judge.
The routines are way too strict.
It is essentially controlled crying. I feel strongly about the negative effects of that practice. It has been proven in numerous studies to be harmful to a child's brain development, even if it seems as though they are fine on the surface.
Having said that, if a mother is not coping and is ready to smother her baby, this is a better alternative.
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