@mrsharvey I couldn't read your post and not respond. I spend many hours every night feeding and rocking my near 9 month old to sleep. Every single night. when DS was this age he woke hourly for a few weeks. But DD2 was still my worst sleeper. Between 6 and 18 months she was awake almost every night for 2 hours anywhere between midnight and 4 am. As she got older she began sleep walking and had night terrors. It wasn't until she was well over 4 that she slept through regularly. Turns out she has an anxiety condition which is why she was such a cr@p sleeper.
And with her I tried to follow SOS to the letter. But Tizzie wasn't sitting with me in her bedroom comforting me night after night while DD2 screamed and cried. She wasn't there when I was fantasising about driving my car into a tram one day because at least it meant I would get some sleep. No at the end of the day we are pretty much alone with our babies and our books. We don't live in a village anymore. I wish I could come over and hold your son for you for a few hours at night so you could sleep. I know @btmac is doing it tough too at the moment. I feel for you both because you are in this on your own.
My biggest criticism of all of these books (contented baby is another) is the language they use is very powerful. It's all about what babies or parents "should" be doing. I have grown to hate that word more than any other as the opposite of should is failure.
I hate people asking me if my baby still wakes at night. I feel I have to justify why it's ok for me while people look stunned that I run on so little sleep and yet still care for other children.
Our kids don't need fixing, they are happy and well rested. They are wonderful and so are you.