- I can understand why some refuse to acknowledge that parenting may play a role in some cases of babies sleeping through. Because that would insinuate that in some cases parenting choices have led to babies being terrible sleepers. And few people like to self reflect like that.
I don't engage my ds1 in his games, but then I kiss him on the forehead when he is quiet and settled. Then when I check on him through the night. I stand by my comment disagreeing with the statement that all cuddles are a NEED. Pfftttt!!!
Without the cold I'm not sure there would have been a regression to be honest. She's a bit better and slept in her own cot till 4 last night, woke up snuffly and I fed her and rocked her back to sleep and she slept till 8.
So my answer is just keep rocking/cuddling back to sleep each time they wake. DD1 was a nightmare so I wouldn't have noticed a regression with her! Each time she woke I fed her and rocked her back to sleep. She now sleeps ok for a 2yo. Ends up in my bed about once a fortnight for part of the night if she wakes up crying. Bit too big to rock back to sleep now!
I just love it when DD1 is in bed and I'm cuddling DD2 to sleep watching old episodes of 90210. I can barely get a cuddle out of DD1 now so I get what I can from DD2.
I know with my kids many of my parenting choices definitely reflect in their sleep patterns. I am still feeding and rocking and cuddling my nearly 9 month old over night as if I leave her to "self settle" she wakes her brother up, and I can't be bothered settling them both back to sleep.
I gladly own my parenting style and the impact it has in my kids. But I think @VicPark you need to remember that if you want to own the great parenting choices you made that impact on your kids you must also own each and every bad one as well.
One of the leading sleep clinics (not sleep schools but a sleep disorder clinic) released information on babies and sleep when DD1 was about a year old and basically concluded that of 100 babies 15 would always normally follow a routine, 15 will never follow a routine and the other 70 will shuffle between feral and routine. Parents can have an impact on that but cannot fundamentally change the nature of the baby they have been given.
Eta: sorry baby all of the sudden went from sound asleep to crying my arms so couldn't finish!
I just felt if research was going to be discussed then you give both sides of the coin, and there's research that suggests CC (not CIO) isn't damaging. But yes, even that research says after 6 months of age.
Last edited by HollyGolightly81; 22-04-2014 at 23:15.
I do believe that it most cases it's temperament - my DS2 was a kilo at birth and still mewed for cuddles in the NICU.
That's funky - I was quoting Sonja and I got VicPark....the universe is weird!
Last edited by misskittyfantastico; 22-04-2014 at 23:11.
It actually tells you exactly what to listen for.
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