Btw This type of misinformation and over dramatization ( "cruelty" ... Really?) does not help the discussion.
Can I just say one thing on this.
OP I have gathered from many of your posts that you're doing it tough with a toddler and a newborn with sleep issues. I read Harvey Karp's Happiest Baby on the Block until the spine fell off with all my kids. It was a godsend during the early months.
Maybe dig around and find that. Routine books can be great but when read by an already sleep deprived mind can be destructive. Even advocates of SOS on here call people following it too strictly "idiots". How do you know where to draw th line when you're so tired from sleep deprivation you can't function?
Can you contact Tressilian for some guidance as well? Good luck. My youngest is almost 9 months old now and I find myself nostalgic for the newborn stage until I remember what damn hard work it really is.
Oh crap! I was just thinking how in the end my bub went down well for his morning nap. Then I realised the baby monitor wasn't turn on. Doh. It was turned off for at least 7 cups of tea. Just checked on him and he is fine. Might to make a cup of tea now...
Like all sleep training/routine books, it's not going to work for everyone. It worked great for my friend, but in saying that her baby was never cried much and was an 'easy' baby so it wasn't as hard to get into a routine.
I gave it a go, but my boy just didnt take to it and he eventually fell into his own little routine which is great now. I think reading her routines are a good guide to know how long baby tends to be awake for etc at certain ages. But of course it's just a guide.
One thing I don't understand is how you can breastfeed a baby according to a schedule... Sometimes babies have small feeds, other times larger feeds... So when so young I don't see how they can go in a feeding schedule...sleep, yeah...but not feeding.
I think how your baby responds decides your opinion of SOS. I personally wouldn't try it again as I didn't have a good experience with it, but I wouldn't condemn the book - because it obviously works well for others.
I always find interesting (puzzling?) this talk of grizzling vs crying, and how this crying is not crying, it's grizzling, and that the baby is not crying but you need to learn the difference between cries.... IMO a cry is a cry is a cry, especially for tiny babies. It's like when people argue they're controlled comforting and NOT controlled crying, or when people say they would NEVER smack but they do tap. It's all words really, different words for the same thing...
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