I would be interested in what field of 'male dominated industry' you have worked. As someone who has worked in a male dominated industry for over 15 years I have seen many improvements, but we are still so far from equal that at times it is laughable.
However I'm going to take a different tack rather than my personal anecdotes.
If it is all a matter of our choice - why are the rates of high school girls taking up maths and science in decline? What has society done that says, girls aren't 'smart' enough to do these subjects? Why are we no longer valuing education? Poor education choices leaves people with severely restricted work choices, which leads to poor outcomes in many many areas. Education choices aren't made by the child, they are made by what their family (which comes from society) tells them is acceptable.
We don't need less feminism, we need more. The fact that we are even having this discussion shows just how much more we need.
I would also be happy to provide personal anecdotes on winning 'women in construction awards', returning to work part time in a male industry, the fact that people are ready to knight my DH because he *gasp* stays at home to look after his own child, obvious and not so obvious discrimination etc etc. But as I'm sure you will put it all down to my own choice, there probably isn't much point.