We, as parents, are the one who can change sexism in our daily lives.
Until they reached 3yo, a study has shown that to the question "which gender do you think is best?" children would answer their own gender.
Past 3yo, the answer "male" become predominant especially in families with more traditional house chores repartition. It is also the predominant answer with kids exposed to TV.
I believe that we as parents do have all the answers to make a big change in gender equality.
Only a small percentage of those that consider themselves feminist are 'bra burners'. Every single opinion and life choice has extremists. In religion, bfing, politics, in a million parenting choices, I could go on. To tar us all with the same brush is misinformed and silly.
I think people are blinkered if they feel women experience equality in the workplace and their lives. And that's in Australia where women are treated great in comparison to the rest of the world. Look at the countries where women are murdered, raped, beaten and sold and nothing is done.
But you see this is the crux of my point, its the situation caused by women being the ones in the most part who stay at home.absolutely, BUT as individuals and in couples it is we who put ourselves in this position.
It wouldn't be an issue if men decided to stay at home, so who's fault is it? Society's or the woman or couple who make the decision? I think the latter.
We are too quick ,to fob it off as a societal issue, rather than something we do in fact have control over.
The forklift operator example used earlier too, its a higher risk job. Again, there's no reason why a woman can't choose to be a forklift driver, or a man can't be a receptionist. This too cam change by individuals taking personal responsibility for choosing a career they want or us as parents telling our daughters they can be what ever they want, whether a forklift driver or a receptionist. I'd rather that be my message to my DD than telling her about stats of careers, their pay and who works in them. Again I see that as counter productive and won't do anything to change anything.
I guess really my issue is how we go about equality, not the expecting it, of course we expect it but also the negative impacts aren't as negative as it is thought.
Why don't more men stay home? bc society says it's women's work.
For me feminism is about offering women choices. I'm a SAHM purely by choice. Not all women get that. And this is where it becomes a cyclic argument. You say women do already have heaps of choices. Those choices have come about from feminism! and in order to have more choice, feminism needs to stay on the agenda.
I just really struggle with this anti femo stuff from other women who believe it's just extremism and we are equal...... the reasons we have made such inroads in the last 50 years is directly bc of this 'extremism'. The suffragettes were considered extremists - we now vote. The women of the 60's were 'bra burners' yet we now work, have access to birth control. Yes, those that hate men annoy me, a lot. But again, they are the minority.
I think women in 3rd world countries would shake their heads at some of the comments here and wish that feminism was more alive in their community.
I actually view the comments in this thread as proof of what feminism has given us
How is a forklift operator more high risk that a childcare worker? A forklift driver moves stuff from one place to another (talking standard and not hi reach forks) whereas a childcare worker has responsibility for a number of children from babies to age 4- all of which are more volatile that a pallet of stuff
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