Grrrr, I'm. So sick to death of my dad's comments about our parenting and lifestyle. He's so old fashioned!
he asks me this morning, so when are you going to toilet train 25 month old DD. I said, I don't know but, she's not ready yet (she still has a wet and usually poopy nappy every morning, she's not in a bed and also isn't ready to, she doesn't talk much or use words to express what she wants, plus she is happy to sit in a poopy nappy for half an hour or so - happened recently when we went out and I forgot her nappies). But he bangs on about how she is ready but doesn't say why.
We went to pick her up today and I see print outs of how to toilet train! And while there he also comments on how 'he's never known of any parent who spends more on themselves than their child', when we mentioned not buying our next child so many toys.
I let it roll of my back, but I have had the same handbag for the last 3 years, I have about two pairs of shoes that I wear until they get holes in them and don't really buy clothes unless I'm pregnant, like now, or have a need. We rarely go out for dinner (or out at all at night), but we also don't like spending money on material things for DD as we don't want her to associate material things with love, our time and our love and food, clothes, water and a roof over her head is what she needs and she gets plenty in excess!
Yet we we tell him not to give her foods she is intolerant to or allergic to and he fobs it off, like she should be able to eat everything, or she's missing out even though dairy products upset her stomach something shocking and could go into anaphylaxis if she eats something she's allergic to, because we just would have to give her ice to treat it!!!?
im sooooooo sick of the judgement. It's hard enough being a parent, I already doubt myself on some things, I don't need his judgement. I'm 31 for Christ sake, I think I know my daughter better than anyone else. She's healthy, not being neglected or abused, so just leave me alone!!!