I love them!
A friend is getting married soon & I'm thinking about stealing her 'no presents' bit. 'As our household is well set up & after relieving so many presents at the engagement party, we request no gifts on the day. There will be a wishing well but as your presence is our present we sincerely hope you do not feel obligated to put anything in there.'
She means every word of it & doesn't expect many people to use it.
I do get that some people show a hideous sense of entitlement but I'm guessing that would extend beyond their wedding day and into life in general.
The only expense our guests (which is just family) have to incur is their travel. I wouldn't dream of asking guests to pay for anything. Our wedding is going to be off the beaten track a little so we are paying for accommodation for 1 night which is going to be the biggest expense.
I'm fine with them, I don't think it necessary that we stick to the tradition of giving items to 'set up home' just because it is tradition. Times change, most people have what they need by the time they get married, and the cost of living is huge these days.
Lordy, I received a heap of kitchen stuff for Christmas I just want to throw out but won't purely because it was a gift (sigh).
In saying that, I have been to a wishing well wedding and given a gift that I thought more appropriate for the couple, for many reasons.
Love them! (But I am a very practical person...)
We had one at our wedding over 7 years ago. We were given amounts ranging from $30- several hundred dollars. We also received some lovely gifts. We were blown away by the generosity of our family and friends!
Although I can't remember the exact amount we received, I do know it was less than a quarter of what we spent on our wedding, but I never expected people to "pay for their meal".
The money we were gifted helped us set up our home together since we hadn't lived in sin!
We used it to buy a washing machine, fridge, sofabed for when visitors came to stay, a coffee table and some of our dining chairs. Very gratefully received and all used for its intended purpose!
I used to hate the idea of a wishing well but now I'm a busy mum I think it's a convenient option! Like a previous poster said, just stop off at an ATM on the way to the wedding!
If I had a wedding I'd ask for no gifts, and if a few closer relatives insisted on giving cash we'd graciously accept but never expect it.
Alternatively I'd ask for a bottle of wine that we could share with the giver when they visit us at our home next.
Another gift I like giving is a restaurant voucher for somewhere really nice. That way the newlyweds get to enjoy a nice date night after the wedding.
I'm not a fan of them. If people want to give cash/gift cards then they can still do so without a wishing well, just pop it in a card.
We had a tiny wedding and we weren't expecting gifts at all but everything we received (including cash/gift cards) was lovely and totally appreciated.
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