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    Default Spin Off - Wishing Wells - Love or Loathe?

    Spin off from another thread.. Wishing Wells at Weddings, Do you love them or loathe them and why?
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    well I've already expressed with I dislike them in the other thread but:

    they are impersonal

    they can come across demanding and ungrateful (note I said they can come across, not saying everyone that has one is this way)

    they create pressure for people to give more than they can afford

    they can be argued to be forgetting what weddings are really about - having loved ones celebrate the union with your partner.

    they can create a precedent where certain sums are requested to cover costs of the wedding some argue guests should not be expected to pay

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    Neither.

    I didn't have one or a registry but I have no problem contributing to one. I always put our money in a card, so they know who it's from.

    I must admit though, I'm always pleasantly surprised when there isn't a registry, wishing well, donate funds for honeymoon/renos etc... because I really like buying gifts!

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    Doesn't bother me either way.

    Although I think the tradition of pinning money to a dancing bride's dress seems a lot more exciting!!

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    Im in the grey zone.

    I like the convenience
    I dislike deciding on a 'fair' amount
    The give me money poems that people put in the invites drive me batty & do nothing to disguise that you want money as gifts so just state it plainly rather than being cutesy and sounding stupid.

    We did a gift registry for our wedding at myer, also had a list of things for target to cover all budgets. Quite a few people gave money or giftcards of their own choice.

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    Easy for guests

    No transporting of gifts for guests that have travelled/ at destination weddings

    People only need to give of they wish/can afford to.

    Recipients will actually use the gifts.

    No wasting of wrapping paper.

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    I think it's fine if it's optional. As in, buy a gift or throw in $$- whatever suits the guest!

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    Dislike them.

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    Quote Originally Posted by misskittyfantastico View Post
    Neither.

    I didn't have one or a registry but I have no problem contributing to one. I always put our money in a card, so they know who it's from.

    I must admit though, I'm always pleasantly surprised when there isn't a registry, wishing well, donate funds for honeymoon/renos etc... because I really like buying gifts!
    I like this.

    I also find it easy given most of our friends live sin.

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    Love.

    The couple getting married are not stuck with a massive pile of gifts that they may not want/need/use, and can instead use the money towards something important to them.

    Easy for guests to do, and they don't have to worry about what gift to buy.


 

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