HI, im actually a regular member undercover and would really appreciate help with this situation.
For the past 4 months my fiance has been making me do something i don't agree with. Without revealing too much, it's possibly illegal(one of those grey areas in the law) but mostly it just goes against my morals and values. I have brought it up and every time i do i get dismissed or made feel bad. He realized that this doesn't sit with me and well has recently brought in an issue that he so feels very strongly about and it so happens that for me to consider his needs or make him happy i have to continue this things, either that or absolutely turn a very huge part of my life upside down hence why 4 months later i'm still doing this.
Things have been rocky but actually looking better and brighter in our relationship. However i have made a decision that i will not be continuing with this. I understand that i should be prepared for the end of our relationship and i have put in place a plan for me and the kids(except for accommodation, which i'm looking for options in, Sydney is so bloody expensive and i can't leave for another year or so due to studies).
This is going to be a bit out of the blue and i am expecting a lot of guilt trips and anything else that can make me feel bad. I need help on how i can bring up this conversation and anything else i may have missed or forgot to account for.
And i really want to know what everyone would do if they were in this situation.
I have to add, the first argument i will hear from him will be that im being selfish, every time im not ding what he wants im being selfish, how do i respond to that?