It just seems to me so many threads revolve around people getting upset over what is or isn't said on Facebook. I agree it can be great but it also has resulted in a new type of social anxiety that didn't exist before.
I just recall one night when DD1 kept getting out of bed over and over again. I posted one FB about it and my friends all shared their stories and encouraged me not to cave in and keep putting her back. In that situation it was definitely 2 way conversation and it helped me stay strong.
But there are many things which are 1 way conversations on there. But I also know people who have 1 way conversations in real life!
Ok I might be a little weird but I love hearing people brag about their lives. I LOVE hearing about how wonderful their children and husband are it beats negativity any day.
I have a few braggers in my life and honestly I just listen, praise them and they normally just stop anyway. It really doesn't annoy me at all.
We are all different though so I am not taking away other peoples feelings on this matter I am just not competitive at all so it goes in one ear and out the other.
In saying that I wouldn't go on about my gorgeous husband to a single friend, or go on about how excited I am about my babies or being pregnant to friends that are struggling to conceive, I think people need to pick their audience.
I downplay as well with one gifted child. I really only tell close friends and family about her achievements and share the big ones on FB every now and then.
One of the mods started a thread recently about how tired they were of not being able to be proud of their child's intellectual achievements when everyone brags about sporting or other achievements and everyone says Wow, how cool are they? but telling anyone about your child's intellect = bragging and exaggerating. Totally agree, and this is the life of a parent with a gifted child. Don't tell anyone or you're bragging.
I remember a thread in the *gifted* section a while ago with members discussing the topic and people coming in saying "you're making me feel bad my child can't do X/isn't as smart as yours". It was a perfect example that even in the gifted section we can't talk about it.
Anyway, I'm digressing a bit but it makes me feel angry
It's funny, you are bragging when you share positives. And attention seeming when you share negatives.
I get jealous hearing about kids doing well as my kids aren't doing aged appropriate stuff.
But I get flack for sharing stuff and looking for attention/sympathy.
I am just talking about what my kids are doing just like you.
To me it's about context. In fb world I have a couple of friends who I deem 'braggers' because I am close enough to them that I know for a fact they are portraying a certain element of success in their life despite what's really going on behind closed doors (and for one it's more to promote her business than anything else). It doesn't annoy me much because I think it's a shame that they seem delusional about their own situation, iykwim.
In the real world, to me it's bragging if it is hijacking another conversation or is brought up when it's irrelevant, or to kind of steal someone else's thunder. Example: me being excited DS has finally started walking - my boss (interrupting) 'really? He's only just walking? [grandson] was walking at 13 months!' = bragging. Me being excited DS has finally started walking - my colleague 'yes, it's such a lovely feeling when they learn something new, isn't it? I remember that feeling!' = not bragging.
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