Is your friend being hoighty toighty and competitive or are you going through a rough trot and being sensitive? I can't imagine anyone intentionally being hurtful like that.
You can't control what others do, you can control how you react.
Best of luck..
I built a house when I was 22. I had a friend come over up see it and showed her around and she just kept making hmmm and yeahs. At the end i asked her what she thought of my house and she said "it looks... New".
We drifted apart over the next few years but still have friends in common. Oddly enough at social events now she actively seeks me out being super friendly (ignoring other people she's closer to). I think it's because I'm a solo mum and for some reason i believe she thinks that's cool.
She's trying to have a perfect life, stylish clothes around the house, always wearing makeup etc. I bum around in my trackies and I'm clearly not perfect but I'm pretty sure I'm happier than she is.
I would just mentally laugh inside your head and start to make it a game, see if you can bait them into saying something so many times.
Maybe they're just jealous or having problems and are desperate to cover it up by competing. They may feel insecure and are making themselves feel better . They could even be seeking your approval.
I know when I'm happy I'm too busy doing my own thing to be bothered competing iykwim (not that I compete when I'm unhappy lol).
I'd just ignore it, or smile and nod (maybe roll my eyes behind their backs ) if you can't just cut them off. Good luck with it, it sounds so frustrating.
Is it bragging or are they proud of their efforts? Sometimes people can come off bragging when they are just proud of their accomplishments. If I post a pic on fb of a cake I've made it's cos I'm happy with it. It's not to upset Jane doe cos she can't bake.
Btw I only post success stories... Not to annoy people but because I want to remember that and not the ones that failed.
wifey of hubby who is always away. mother of two girls who are always amusing.
It's not just bragging, it's the way they treat me specifically as I described above... I think there's a difference between bragging and treading on others in order to either negate them or be better than them.
Also, plenty of people manage to share their good stuff, good lives etc with out putting others down or bragging.
Its a bit hard to explain I guess but I definitely, after all this time, believe its directed at me with these two people. In fact, waking up this morning I'm thinking they are both largely full of it anyway, and yes I am probably being a little over sensitive lately....
Nope scratch that! These people know exactly what they are doing and bugger them!
Thanks everyone for the advice.
Last edited by Ellewood; 13-04-2014 at 07:45.
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