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    Default Competitive people!

    Can someone please give me some advice on how to tolerate competitive people? Because I can't stand them it seems. Yet I know a few!

    One of my closest friends for example, always (I feel) tries to one-up me. It never bothered me before but it really sh.its me now for some reason! Lately she is worse, always facebook bragging with hidden inuendos at times, and being a bit too 'happy' about life and her perfect world and husband (I feel she does this around me much more than she used to) she always tries to make me feel like I'm a charity case simply because I'm a single mum.

    Theres also other people who always try to negate my stuff or compete on everything.

    Im just a bit over these people lately. Why do they do it?? Help me understand the mentality.

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    In my mind i put on ice skates and kick them in the vag, in real life i choose not to participate and just reply with "thats nice" and change topics

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    And also; theres a meme that says "i wish my life was as great as i make it out to be on facebook" people project a bunch of bullshiz on facebook thats not reality so she may just be doing it to make herself feel better not necessarily to make others feel worse??

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    I think its insecurity - always having to tell people how wonderful they to try and validate themselves to boost their self esteem - I know a few people like that , the best way to deal with it is agree with them and change topic!
    So if she says " oh my son is a genius " I'd say " that's great - have you seen the new Cameron Diaz movie" you can't change them so it's best to agree/ ignore and move on!

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    The thing is, these two people are in my life and opting out isn't really an option. One is a family member, the other a long-time friend.

    We are supposed to be mature at our age, and while I'm squally the first to agree that perhaps their life isn't ad awesome as they make out, I actually think they really I have good lives! And that's fine, but why make me feel bad about mine??

    Maybe I'm just being sensitive lately.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Elijahs Mum View Post
    I think its insecurity - always having to tell people how wonderful they to try and validate themselves to boost their self esteem - I know a few people like that , the best way to deal with it is agree with them and change topic!
    So if she says " oh my son is a genius " I'd say " that's great - have you seen the new Cameron Diaz movie" you can't change them so it's best to agree/ ignore and move on!
    Oh I have done this for so long. It's just now I'm like farrrrk I just want something baddish to happen to them tbh, just to feel satisfied for a minute!

    Oh boy I need counselling haha.

    PS. I'm not at all jealous, I sware! I don't want their life, I just feel so put down by these people. I know it's insecurity, but it's also more than that!
    Last edited by Ellewood; 12-04-2014 at 18:10.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Zombie_eyes View Post
    And also; theres a meme that says "i wish my life was as great as i make it out to be on facebook" people project a bunch of bullshiz on facebook thats not reality so she may just be doing it to make herself feel better not necessarily to make others feel worse??
    This. I saw a quote t that was along the lines of 'Don't compare your real life to someone else's highlights reel'

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    I'm sure I have a friend who is way worse than your friend, Feetwood.


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    Just rise above it,obviously people like that are insecure or jealous...its their issue. Anyone can make their life seem glorious via FB. Its real life that counts. And some people just aren't happy unless they are bringing others down. Its funny because I am always posting pics of my cakes I make,and I have had a few people in everyday life conversations say "You are such a wonderful mum,I see all the things you make for them on FB,its so lovely" and Im all taken back and like don't think you were there when I went bat**** crazy at my kids,but hey I baked a cake so I must be a wonderful mum!

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    Quote Originally Posted by FiveInTheBed View Post
    I'm sure I have a friend who is way worse than your friend, Feetwood.

    Do tell! I'm looking for a pick-me-up!

    I know, I'm terrible.

    Im bloo.dy human!


 

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