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    Default I am a people pleaser, and I can't make myself happy.

    Throughout my childhood I was desperate for love and affection, to be appreciated and respected. Instead I was manipulated and controlled instead of being taught about life. Fast forward 20 years and I am fearful of making decisions. If someone asks for something, I can give you 100% of myself, even if you treat me like ****. Yet, something that I want, something I am absolutely desperate for I hesitate and question myself, especially when others disagree with it. I am so alone and unhappy.

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    Gosh, you sound similar to me! Only I dont even please others all that much. Making decisions is so tough sometimes!

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    Sounds like you had a pretty miserable childhood op. From your post it seems to me that you have had enough and are ready to make a change. Please believe in yourself and put yourself first. Practice saying no to others. It may feel awkward at first but will slowly get easier. You deserve to be happy and you can have that once you start standing up for what you want. Hugs xxx

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