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    Default Spin Off: at what age do you allow your child to use the public toilets by themselves

    So the 'dads and daughters' thread got me thinking. At what point do you feel comfortable with allowing your child to go into a public restroom alone..?
    Obviously there's no issue with a same sex child but what about with mum and sons, and dads and daughters?

    I wouldn't be happy with my DD when shes 8 years old going into a men's toilet but I also wouldn't be overly thrilled about her being in the restrooms alone..

    Thoughts?

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    My little fella has been using the toilets alone since about 3.5. Most of the time he comes with me but depending on were we are he will go to the men's by himself. Some if the places are our little country town because I can see into the toilets, our local pool because there are so few people we know if it's empty and at functions at our local hall for the same reasons.

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    I have an 8, 5 and 3 year old. I also have an 8 month old but it wouldn't apply to her.

    My answer is never at this age.

    I always take them to a disabled toilet if we're all together or a parents room. If I've just got the older girls I walk them in and check it out first. I may walk out an stand by the door outside if it's a small toilet area and crowded. I usually go back in and check they've left the toilet in a clean state. DD2 still sometimes needs help so I'm usually with her.

    Going to the toilet alone isn't a milestone in our family. So far it hasn't been an issue.

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    Depends on the child, the place and the circumstances.

    DS is 7 in June (where did the time go?!) and will go to the mens room on his own at the pool or when we are out. After his swimming lesson though he comes with me into the womens change rooms (that have the toilets) and has a quick shower so he can get ready for school.

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    I have 8.5, 6 and 2.5 year olds and the only time I let the 8.5 year old go without me is if we are at our local district club/rec centre or at the local pool - very small town and she must go with a group (she's always with a group of friends anyway) and she must come and tell me or her dad before she goes. The 6 year old can go to the boys change rooms/toilet at the pool but again, in a group and tell me first. I'll probably let him do the same at the club/rec centre this hockey season - see how he goes.

    Anywhere else, shopping centres, outings etc... we all go to the disabled loos.

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    My kids are 8, 6, 6, 4 and 3. And I never let any of them go by themselves. If my hubby has to take them, he will take the boys with him to te men's room and the girls to the disabled.

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    My child will always be supervised. I always see boys in the ladies and girls going into the mens with their respective parents. Or men will take their kids into the baby rooms where there's a toilet there.

    DH and I were at a shopping centre some years ago where a little girl was assaulted and murdered in a matter of minutes when she was left to attend the Ladies on her own. I have never forgotten that day and I make no apologies for being super diligent in public places. "Being able to see in" or "I know the place well" just doesn't cut it with me, sorry.

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    After the other thread over the weekend, probably not until they leave home.

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    My DS is 4 and I still take him into the female toilets with me. I won't be sending him in the male toilets for awhile yet.


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    For us its been around 9.
    I say around because each child is different and their maturity is different. I still try and send my younger girls together.

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