Well said @mrsharvey!I spent a goodly amount of time last night reflecting on why some of the comments on this thread have affected me so much. The thing is, if my son was abducted and anyone did any digging into my past, they would certainly find some unsavoury characters - yes, people I would think twice about having any contact with now I have a child, and there's no way on earth they will ever know where I live. I am shy and can imagine myself being all kinds of twitchy on camera. I struggle to make eye contact with strangers. I am very private, so being confronted with expressing my raw grief and fear in a public arena such as the media would be overwhelming. And, to be frank, if my son was abducted I would either be drunk or they would have to sedate me.
I guess the thought of, on top of all that, people making decisions about my level of guilt or personal culpability based on such matters just doesn't sit right with me. It feels like victim blaming. I guess I can understand the level of antipathy for drug users/dealers, especially where children are involved. I am sure that addicts are likely to feel far more self-hatred than anyone can throw at them over the internet.
No addict ever sets out to become hopelessly addicted, unhealthy, in debt, in mental and physical crisis. But we live in a world where, for the most part, drugs are celebrated. Look at Rihanna's twitter - constant photos of her drug use. Songs/movies about drinking and drugs. Look at The Hangover! I just feel like our youth are really up against it, and I would hope that, as parents, we would show compassion to our children if they were faced with some very real and dire long-term consequences to some poor choices that are generally made as teens, when their decision-making capabilities aren't even fully developed yet. Rather than implying that they deserve what they get if their 3 year old daughter is abducted.