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    Default Mil: dumb or racist?

    Wtf..... This is how the conversation went this morning:

    Me:
    "The cleaner is coming this morning so we need to be out the house early."

    Mil: "is she a boat person?"

    Me: "no"

    Mil: "so she's Aussie then?"

    Me (in a cranky voice): "I assume so."

    Is the mil Dumb or racist? What would you have said/done?

    I'm cranky at myself for not saying something to her. I was in shock...

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    I would of made a joke about Australians being the original boat people.....

    Yeah, that's pretty weird that she'd just assume the cleaner was a boat person, and even weirder that she'd care what race the cleaner is....

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    In all honestly I probably would have taken a second to even make the connection and replied with a smart a** comment.

    From that comment I would say she is fairly ignorant but not necessarily racist.

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    A little of A, a little of B?

    Not sure why she would jump to the conclusion that the cleaner was a refugee. Unless this happens often I would just let it go - often with MIL's any comebacks are not worth the effort!

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    A little dumb, a little racist.

    What a stupid thing to ask.

    It's hard to know how to handle such ignorance!

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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    Wtf..... This is how the conversation went this morning:

    Me:
    "The cleaner is coming this morning so we need to be out the house early."

    Mil: "is she a boat person?"

    Me: "no"

    Mil: "so she's Aussie then?"

    Me (in a cranky voice): "I assume so."

    Is the mil Dumb or racist? What would you have said/done?

    I'm cranky at myself for not saying something to her. I was in shock...
    O.o

    /facepalm

    That is all.

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    Uh, what?
    Such a strange question!
    Maybe she just wanted the chance to have a go at boat people and how they are taking all our jobs or something silly like that.

    *** "Daddy, toast, hat" ***

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    I'd be so shocked if someone asked me that, wow that's horrible!
    What possible difference could it make who cleans your house. Id say something angrily, I wouldn't be able to help myself.

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    Yeah both.
    I've always found an indignant "I beg your pardon?" after the initial racist/stupid remark, followed by a death stare quite effective over the years.

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