I have a son, when we're out and he needs to use the toilet we go to the women's provided there aren't parents rooms. We have a daughter on the way, and I would expect that DP will take her into the male toilets if she needs to go and there aren't parents rooms. I don't use the disabled toilet unless necessary, as I don't see the need. I also really don't understand why people have such an issue with little girls going into a men's toilet? I assume these people would in turn not take a little boy into the women's toilet with them, on the off chance that the child gets a view of someone of the opposite gender using the toilet?