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    Default Dads and daughters

    Sorry if this is a stupid question... but DH was asking me last night.
    DD1 (3yo) has just toilet trained. DH takes her out quite often by himself so which toilets would he take her to (if there was no disabled toilet option) - males or females? I said definitely not the males - but would women mind if a man entered the female toilets (if he had a little girl with him)??

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    Definitely NOT the women's toilets. He should just take her into a cubicle in the men's toilets.

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    I have 4 brothers & an ex-husband & a DH. Having a girl & 2 boys means we have done plenty of toilet trips!
    They would all take any of my kids if they needed to go to the Men's. I don't have a problem with it as it's simply a brisk walk to a stall. It's not like the Ladies as there's never a line up!

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    This is an interesting one. I went to a seminar given by a sex crimes police officer and he said it's best for the dad to take his girl into the women's toilets, but open the door, shout out he has a daughter and is coming in, in case there is anyone in there.

    He said it can be quite traumatic for a little girl to see men in a men's restroom, urinals etc. Plus I think the likelihood of something happening is higher I believe?

    Just this policemans advice though.... I still don't know what to do :/ I'm not comfortable with either to be honest

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    My DH says def not the female toilets, he would feel way to uncomfortable going into the ladies toilet even with his daughter!

    My DH has taken my girls into mens toilets if there is not a disabled option - but in saying this he says it has only happened a few times times. We always carry a potty in the car and this was always his first option if possible. DH says he has carried them into the mens toilet so he can make sure they are looking away from the urinals and head straight into a cubicle. He says you really can't see anything but mens backs - it's not like they stand around flashing themselves, most men are pretty discrete.

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    I wouldn't have an issue if a man brought his daughter into the women's toilet. It's not like they see much anyway. One of my male friends has raised his daughter since 13 months old. He regularly takes his daughter to the women's daughter as he finds many men's toilets smelly and doesn't want his daughter in there.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Hollywood View Post
    Definitely NOT the women's toilets. He should just take her into a cubicle in the men's toilets.
    This^.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BbBbBh View Post
    I wouldn't have an issue if a man brought his daughter into the women's toilet. It's not like they see much anyway. One of my male friends has raised his daughter since 13 months old. He regularly takes his daughter to the women's daughter as he finds many men's toilets smelly and doesn't want his daughter in there.
    Agreed. Whats the big deal? I think its more appropriate to take her into the womens toilets with closed cubicles than a mens toilet. If it was available id get him to use a disabled toilet preferably

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    I don't see the issue with taking her into either. If he takes her to the mens just make sure she looks straight ahead. If he decides to take her to the womens just yell out he is coming in. If any women have an issue with it they really need to grow up.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SoThisIsLove View Post
    Agreed. Whats the big deal? I think its more appropriate to take her into the womens toilets with closed cubicles than a mens toilet. If it was available id get him to use a disabled toilet preferably

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    The big deal could be that young girls are in the toilet. DD2 is 5 and goes with the door open (I'm usually in there with her but sometimes I check the toilet then wait outside). It would freak the heck out of her and her older sister if a man came in.

    OP DH always uses the disabled and if he's somewhere there isn't one (very rare) the girls would do a park or bush wee (as it was usually only somewhere like that that there wasn't a disabled toilet).

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