Okay - so to out myself here - I was in gifted programs from year 6 (that's when they started way back when I was a young person). I went into another gifted program at year seven, then for all of my highschool years. Yes, I then went onto university.
So - yes, I know my IQ is over 135 (mensa level), yet I don't tell others as I don't want to be seen as boasting.
When I was a child, I was embarrassed to tell people I was in gifted programs, as I'd seen how people would sneer (yes that was my perception) for whatever reason. I sort of resented my mother for listening to other people telling her about their children's wonderful achievements academically, yet she never seemed to glower back about my achievements.
So here's my rant...
I have now encountered the same (jealousy? insecurities? or whatever) as to why people actually play down their intellectual abilities as an adult. I totally downplayed my intellectual abilities as a child.
I have had people use in arguments "well I know I'm not as intelligent as you" - when I know I've never said - "you're not very smart" or "you're not as smart as me", so as much as I never knowingly put people down for their intellectual ability, it apparently is something to come through in debates/ arguments (okay - so I'm using my mother in law in one example here, but it has come up otherwise). My rant tonight is as a result of my MIL saying to me - well I'm not as smart as you but... yet, I've never said "well I went to university so I know best" (or words to that effect)
So my rant is as a child I played down my grades (when asked by other people), I never volunteered my grades when others boasted. However, as an adult, I've still seen many instances where instead of embracing knowledge, we play it down. The same thing happens with our children. My grandmother (at her 90th birthday party (this is lady who never made secret of the fact that she has an IQ of above 140 and is still in control of all of her faculties), that she hoped I put my DD into a gifted program. I hate that we play down our gifted traits (or maybe I'm in a minority here), in order to fit in and not offend others.
Because, as I've aged and seen more of the world I fully acknowledge, intelligence is much greater than IQ, however I still find people noticing that I have a background in logic solving and other "stuff" which is used as a weapon in arguments.
My mission in life is to teach my children to accept all other people and realise that all people have gifts and the secret is realising their gifts rather than playing up their own.
Anyway - rant over - some may agree and some may disagree, but I've had a bit of a cr@p week (this is not an isolated incident - but the fact that my intellect may mean I come to answers earlier than others or that I do observe things others may not, or that I have answers as I've considered situations others may not, does not mean I feel I'm better than others.
Please read this as: "I grew up being tagged as a "gifted child" and played it down all of my life" regardless I still find some adults get their backs up when I bring up knowledge.
Please be mindful that your "gifted child" is not trying to be a "know-it-all" he/she is not trying to offend or put down others, they are just excited that they have knowledge they wish to share.
As a closing note, people like to put others down to make themselves feel better and that's where I'm at tonight, but given that I was reflecting upon where I may have said something previously that may have offended someone else, it made me aware that it was most likely not my words by unconscious actions (which include words) which happens.
I hate that gifted children feel the need (in some situations) to downplay their intelligence and wish for all children to feel accepted. Maybe it's just my experience, maybe it's changed over the years, but it saddens me that while some parents feel there is stigma attached to having a child that needs extra help at school, I wonder if others realise that there is also stigma attached to having a child who has a "gifted" tag.