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    Default 2 yr old boy Give me hope -- does it get better

    My DS is the sweetest most beautiful little boy. He sleeps well too so I know I am lucky BUT.....

    I am having so much trouble with him. He really doesnt listen to me at all and it is really driving me to distraction. Last night I had to count to 5 at least 15 times to level my temper. One example is last night in the bath with his 8 month old sister he started splashing her in the face. I said at least 5 times, stop splashing your sister. Letting my voice get more serious each time and he just stared at me and kept doing it..

    .I ended up having to pull him out of the bath which then the hitting starts and the throwing of anything he can get a hold of. Oh yes he hits and has now started spitting at us when he doesnt get his own way.

    I have started the 'naughty corner' which does calm himdown but he just comes out and does it again.

    I ma at my wits end and I know he is just a normal 2 year old boy but I just want to know from other mothers that there is a light at the end of the tunnel...when does the reasoning start?

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    Sound pretty normal - and it doesn't get 'better' it just gets different

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    Every age has it's complications. Sure they get easier to reason with (sometimes) but they also learn to argue and answer back.

    I do remember the 2yr old stage and it was really hard. I'm heading there soon with ds2 and I'm not looking forward to it. Ahhhh motherhood.

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    Thanks for the advice. I know he is not abnormal I guess it just doesn't feel like he is understanding consequences or reason....

    Hopefully it may get a bit easier when this happens...though like you guys said I'm sure it will just bring about a brand new set of behavioural issues I will have I work through...lol

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    Quote Originally Posted by Meld85 View Post
    Thanks for the advice. I know he is not abnormal I guess it just doesn't feel like he is understanding consequences or reason....

    Hopefully it may get a bit easier when this happens...though like you guys said I'm sure it will just bring about a brand new set of behavioural issues I will have I work through...lol
    Lol it's all part and parcel unfortunately! With my DS1 I actually found 3 to be a worse age. DS2 has just turned 2 and so far (touch wood) is reasonably good.

    I'm not sure what to suggest really as it sounds like you are doing all the right things! Maybe using consequences when he does the wrong thing might help eg losing a special toy etc. Lots of positive praise when he's doing the right thing might help too. All the best

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    I found with dd 2 1/2 and ds 18m, I was giving to many warnings.
    It was always 'if you do that again, you'll go to your room'
    5 times later I would finally put them in there room.
    (Ds has only just started the room discipline)
    Now they get one warning , and that's it.
    It's a pita, because you always have to be on the ball and can't just 'threaten' from afar. But since we have started being diligent , they really are better behaved because they are starting to understand the concept of consequences.

    Once they go to their room, the have to stay in there until they calm down, once calm they come out say sorry then have a cuddle. (Well ds comes out and mumbles what I think is sorry ).

    That's what works for us

    Dd is 'funny' in that she will go to her room fully worked up and screaming, but within a minute she calms and realises her actions were 'wrong'

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    I found two terribly hard with ds1... Now he's 5 and I find my two year old hilarious with his melt downs and tanty's. Just as you think you have something worked out with him it will change, and won't work anymore. Then next bub starts and doesn't respond to any of your previous methods...

    Sorry i sound like a total pessimist! All I can say is you get used to it, some days are better than others, and it's mainly about how we deal with it, not them. Dh and I have had to make a conscious effort not to let ds1's attitude ruin our mood for the day, or to take it out on him as he's just learning these emotions.

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    As other posters have mentioned it doesn't get easier, it just gets different.

    I am finding age 4 with my son much harder than age 2 for various reasons.

    But yes, if your main concern is being able to reason with him, that part itself does get easier as they comprehend more, as other things become more difficult.

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    I am finding 3 really challenging.
    Not a lot of advice but lots of sympathetic hugs.
    We do 1,2,3 magic and mostly it works.
    I have also been putting myself in time out to try and keep my sanity and pull myself together before going out and trying again.
    Remember to breathe.
    xx


 

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