Hi there mammas and dads,
I have a health question regarding adhd.
My son is a beautiful gentle young man. Hes just turned 9. Up until he was about 6 he was a very easy child/baby. Much easier than my daughter lol.
Once he entered year 1 approx. he became very busy/active. I never thought anything of it except, 'he's just being a typical boy'. Always moving, busy and wiggly.
In year two we had our usual interview with my sons teacher and she mentioned to me that he could/possably/maybe have adhd.
I was devastated. I always pictured children with this were crazy, wired, abusive, violent children (ignorant...I know!) but I didn't have a lot of knowledge on the subject all except of what ive seen on news reports etc.
The reason she said that was because he would do things like, instead of sitting in his chair and listeng (like the rest of the class) he would be hopping on one leg standing next to his table, and karate chopping the air as the class walks in to class neatly.
I admit, I did giggle a bit when she said it... but I get it, it is a problem.
I think I was in a bit of denial as a lot of parents said 'no...all boys are just like that. boys are boys. They are all busy little bees' etc etc etc...
I also know he has had a lot of allergy issues. He has a constant blocked nose, which makes him sleep with his mouth open. Im almost 100% certain he wasn't getting a good nights sleep as he was also tired and had dark circles under his eyes (despite the 8pm bed time everynight).
Anyhoo...I ignored the teacher dismissing her as 'silly' and 'what would she know?'
So, last year his year 3 teacher raised some of the simular problems, 'easily distracted, distracting to others, not listening, not focusing, forgetting instructions etc'...She was really lovely and felt it had to do with all his allergy issues.
She was such an amazing help as she too just had surgey on her nasel passage for a simular thing. She told me its trerrible not being able to breath/sleep etc and that can definitely affect his performance in school.
She kindly gave me the number of her specialist and we booked in for an appointment. It turned out he needed to have his adenoids and turbinates removed. It was causing sleep apnoea.
He had his surgey done in early January, prior to the new school year starting. I was happy as thought he will start the new year afresh and have a better year this year.
Anyhoo, Last week we had our scheduled parent/teacher interview with his new teacher for year 4.
Im so sad!
She again mentioned his lack of concentration and is disruptive to the 2 boys sitting beside him.
She was really lovely and said 'as a person, he is a beautiful boy...very polite and well mannered but very absent minded'.
I asked her "do you think he has ADHD?" she said "well....I didn't want to say that but.......um...yes, I think he may have. The teacher next door has also picked up on it"
I guess now im at a point where I have to admit that my son may have it.
He is very fidgety, and simple task like washing the dishes, clearing the table or dusting IS....SOOOOO....PAINFUL!!! My daughter complains but still gets on with it. For my son, anyone would think we were trying to pull his fingernails out.
My husband took him away for a couple of days this week and even he said 'he really is so absent minded' he would ask his simple things like 'grab your surf board from your room before we go'...he would respond by saying 'sure dad'. 2 mins later he would be sitting in the car waiting to go and my husband would say 'do you have your board?' and he would say 'oh...forgot, sorry'. That's just one instance., This sort of thing happens ALL THE TIME!!!!
So, Ive booked in with the doctor who is putting a referral through to get him tested for adhd.
what my plan was is to get him properly/officially diagnosed then take that diagnoses and get my natropath to treat him with that info.
Should I do this?
Should I waste the money on the specialist ... is it obvious and clear he has this?
If so should I save my money and put it into getting him help at the natropath?
OR get the proper diagnosis...
and get proper meds for him?
I have a strong feeling most here will say DONT GO THE MEDS, but I don't know what direction to take here.
Has anyone got advice on what to do.
Im sure some of you have children with this on here, and any advice on the matter would be truly appreciated.
Im currently seeing a natropath myself and I have just found out I have Pyrrol... as this is a genetic thing, perhaps this is playing a role in it?
I would love to hear your thoughts on this.
Thanks all for reading xo