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    Hi ladies, just hoping for a little advice on what I might be able to say to my friend. I was ttc for a year when I finally got my bfp which ended sadly in a mc. My friend knows none of this but everytime I see her she asks me if I'm trying for a baby yet. Unknown to her it's getting quite hard on me everytime she does this. I don't really want to tell her my ttc story or about my mc. How can I get her to stop asking me if I'm going to have a baby soon? TIA.

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    Maybe tell her that you'd rather not talk about it ? Also maybe tell her that when it does happen you'll be sure to tell her.

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    I would be saying "you know when you ask when i'm planning on a baby? It actually hurts. I'm not at a place where I want to talk about it but would you mind not asking? I know you mean well...blah blah blah...". Most women would get that.

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    I used to get sick of that question as well, so if anyone asked, I told them we had decided that we didn't want to have kids. I found that if I told them we were ttc, we got all the same crap about needing to relax and it'll happen, try doing this or that and it'll happen, which was more annoying.

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    Or what about confiding in her. She would feel happy to be included in your jouneys. And will stop asking evey time if you say it jusn;t doesn't that quickly for you. By the way hang in there. It will happen one day.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BbBbBh View Post
    I would be saying "you know when you ask when i'm planning on a baby? It actually hurts. I'm not at a place where I want to talk about it but would you mind not asking? I know you mean well...blah blah blah...". Most women would get that.
    I agree with this. We had the same thing happen to us and one of my friends was always asking if we're trying. I just had to say "I really don't want to talk about it as it isn't always an easy journey... but I'll make sure I tell you as soon as I have good news!"

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