I agree with you Zombieeyes
My ex-H cheated on me by being on dating websites and went to even arrange a hook up with another married woman. That was when I was away visiting my parents with our 4week old DS at the time. I will never forget the disgust, disappointment and anger I felt when I read that. (I looked at his history and found all this). It was the last straw, no way I wanted to work it out with him when I was the second time he'd broken my trust. The first time I found he'd sent a pic of his penis to some girls. I decided to give him a second chance after a good talking to. He ruined that second chance and I wasn't giving him anymore chances. By then his true colours came out and he wasn't treating me right. So I left with DS a week later.
Any relationship I hope that I won't get cheated on again but I'm not naive to think it can't happen again. That is why my standards are very high now. But I'm not looking for a new partner now. I'm happy being single
I think there can be a lot of justification when you stay with someone that is a cheater. Most men cheat, so it's the norm. It was only sex, she didn't really mean anything to him. He is sorry and won't do it again. She led him on, she's a home wrecker.
I've been there myself so I know those feelings. But I believe it's important to recognise they are justifications to help you stay. A woman can throw herself at a man all she likes, he has to choose to take it further. Not all men are unfaithful. Often they are only sorry they've been caught, and certainly may cheat again, except this time they are going to be much more careful about covering their tracks.
Not unrealistic at all. I expect DH to be faithful. And I dont believe he will cheat on me. Why? Because I dont want to live my life thinking about the what ifs.
Could it happen? Of course it could, anything can happen!
Do I believe it will? No, if I thought it would, I wouldn't be with him.
Would I stay? I'd like to say no. My husband is the absolute love of my life, but he is also my best friend. Losing my husband and best friend in one go would be a massive blow. But even if I did stay, we wouldn't have a relationship. That needs trust. I don't trust easily and I have incredibly low self esteem. I honestly dont think I could ever trust him again, but put in that situation I honestly dont know how I would react.
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If hubby ever cheats he's gone. No if, buts or maybes.
I always said 100% I would never stay if DH cheated. When he did, it was a huge shock and I wasn't sure if I would stay or not. Before I made any promises to him, I decided to give marriage counselling a real chance. If it came to it, I wanted to be able to walk away knowing I couldn't have done more. It was a long, hard road but we are now nearly 4 years down the track and things are really good. Has it been difficult? Of course! Do I trust him now? Absolutely.
I'm sure plenty of people think I'm crazy for staying, but I know I made the right choice and for me that's all that counts.
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