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    Default Is it unrealistic to expect your spouse to be $exually faithful?

    14 months after I discovered my Dh was cheating I find myself in a strange situation. I fear that not all "happily married" couples are in fact happy by my definition I.e. $exually faithful and putting in their best effort to nurture the relationship and care for each other. I'm suspicious that a lot more infidelity occurs than is made known, and that many wives put up with it because their ideal of a family living together is so precious to them that they "turn a blind eye" and never feel completely secure.

    I'm still I'm my marriage, obviously, but I'm really curious about how many women there are out there who decide to stay knowing there is an almost certain risk of betrayal?

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    I tend to agree with you. I say this because of the industry my DP works in and the amount of married/partnered men that play up while their working away is absolutely sick. I wish I had their wives phone numbers!!!!! They go home and play happy families for their weeks off though, wankers!!!!

    I would never ever stay in a relationship after cheating. I'd be gone in an instant.
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    I'm sure there are many unfaithful couples in this world, and I'm as equally certain that there are many faithful couples.
    I'm someone who thought for many years she was in a faithful relationship only to find out I was wrong, however I am also one of those women who refuse to turn a blind eye and I left.
    I am currently in a relationship with another man and I while I am not nieve enough to think it cannot happen again, I.jave spelt out exactly what my boundaries are and the results of crossing them. So.of he chooses to be unfaithful, he will also choose to be a single man.

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    I could never stay in a relationship if I feared betrayal. It would eat me alive. My DF fifos and we have complete faith in each other

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    Each to their own but I know that if my husband was cheating on me, that would be the end of it. Marriage is built on trust and honesty and if I don't have this, I don't have a marriage. Imagine all the sexual diseases that can be spread. Plus children thrive on a happy marriage. Men shouldn't be married if they want numerous sexual partners.

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    I'm quite alarmed at the amount of married men that see prostitutes. My DH tells me pretty much all his married/partnered colleagues at work brag about going to the brothel. I find it sad and sickening.

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    I really don't know what I would do if I discovered my spouse had been unfaithful. I do know that I couldn't stay in a relationship where there was an almost certain risk of betrayal - it would just destroy my self-worth and my sense of self and security. I couldn't live with the constant fear and hurt.

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    No way. I would never stay in an unfaithful relationship. I know 100% that DH would never cheat on me and I would never on him.
    If you love someone there is no way you could hurt them like that.
    Cheating is sick, wrong and there's no excuse for it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Gracie's Mum View Post
    I tend to agree with you. I say this because of the industry my DP works in and the amount of married/partnered men that play up while their working away is absolutely sick. I wish I had their wives phone numbers!!!!! They go home and play happy families for their weeks off though, wankers!!!!

    I would never ever stay in a relationship after cheating. I'd be gone in an instant.
    Yes. Same in my DH's industry. High stress shift work lots of responsibility and a huge need for stress relief. I just wonder how many of those women whose phone numbers you would like actually know and keep going anyway? Food for thought.

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    Quote Originally Posted by misskittyfantastico View Post
    I really don't know what I would do if I discovered my spouse had been unfaithful. I do know that I couldn't stay in a relationship where there was an almost certain risk of betrayal - it would just destroy my self-worth and my sense of self and security. I couldn't live with the constant fear and hurt.
    Sometimes it feels really bad and sometimes I can almost totally block it out because he's an awesome person.


 

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