I should mention that he is 25, probs still too young. Thanks for that though I didn't even consider that they may turn him down...
And I meant I'm young, I have plenty of time to keep building this family up finacially and get myself a career etc.
I should also say that we have decided to try and get severe financial hardship through our super fund. Which if approved would get us out of debt. I don't know of anyone has any experience with any of this and could give me some advice too
I hope he comes around hon, chances are he will. The fob of the baby i am
having in 4 weeks was a complete ******* and definitely didn't want out child and even he seems to have decided he's interested now..I guess in my mind things with his work are likely to change at some point aren't they? I doubt he plans to remain in this position forever and I'm guessing that if money wasn't an issue he might even be happy about the baby. So the baby isn't the problem - your finances are and they can be worked on I know I'm probably sounding like I'm over simplifying a difficult situation but I do believe that in a lot of unplanned pregnancies the baby is rarely the issue it's problems on the periphery and they are usually temporary iykwim. My overall feeling is that you do not sound like you would be ok if you had an abortion and really think you need to follow your feelings about it but also play an active role in finding solutions to your problems financially which you are doing Have you considered financial counselling through a place called Christians against poverty? (The are free).
Today we finally talked about things and I do think he is starting to come around. He even spoke to his best friend on the phone last night and I over heard him tell his mate that a baby girl would be nice this time. We just need to work out finances and how we are going to afford a bigger car.
I might try finacial planning. It is just a bit hard to budget when we don't have a set income to go by just yet.
Oh I'm so glad for you that he seems even a little bit open to the idea He might not know it yet but one day he will look at your child and be very glad they are here- and you are the reason they live and are loved by both of you. You were strong and did what was right. That's something to be very proud of. And you know what? This baby may have been the push you both needed to kick things up a gear and really focus on some long term solutions to your current difficulties
Everything is so much better now! I'm 27 weeks with a healthy baby girl DP has been working for the last few months and is about to score a full time position on a government worksite that should last about 2 years. Still haven't been able to buy a new car to accommodate new bub but hoping we will be able to afford to finance a car in a few months. We are putting in applications on houses atm so should be out in our own house asap.
DP is actually happy about having his first daughter and looking forward to it. So quite alot has changed since april.
Thanks for thinking of me xx
Oh i forgot to add that we were approved for severe financial hardship and paid off our credit cards! Woohoo!
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