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    I would struggle to control my temper in a situation like this and would have gone off. I wish I had the ability to ignore and walk away but I just find it hard to tolerate rudeness in people.

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    Stalking him in a super market god lol.... there is a new low hahaha!!! What an a$$ hat. I have come to learn people dont have to 'look'like something to be dangerous. I do self defense now as I want to be safe etc. I guess what im saying people can just snap and dont have to be drunk or on drugs or angry.

    I usually just say something smart *** for example today hubby said I think shes trying to get passed (I had double pram so OBVIOUSLY I dont try and purposly take up room). I just replied to hubby well if that was the case she would say excuse me in her era she should know manners. Ive seriously lost my patience with people lol.

    Probably rude but meh! I was to the left and she was muttering

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    A guy accused you of stalking him in a supermarket? Holy crud, how delusional is that?!

    I would probably give him a puzzled look and walk off instead of snapping back.

    I'm sorry you were subjected to racism, that's just pathetic.

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    I would have ignored him, spoken to a staff member at the front desk and they would have had him removed by store security or called the police.


    You might feel the need to stand up for yourself, but there's no need to put yourself in danger.

    A man was killed in 2012 from one punch after an argument in Coles.
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    A man called me an effing bish a few months ago, because apparently I drove past a car trying to back out of a parking spot in a car park without giving way. He was a pedestrian who just happened to be walking nearby and not even with the car in question (if I was backing out I would give way to passing traffic first). He just decided to yell abuse at me and I totally kept it together, DS was in the front passenger seat and my first instinct was to have a go back at him but DS said "please, Mum, don't" (he could see I was seething) so I called out "have a lovely day!" and waved as I drove off The look on his face was priceless.
    I do hate confrontation in general, but I am also extremely defensive and occasionally quick tempered so I couldn't see myself letting someone abuse me in public.

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    I have been abused several times at my work over the years by parents - fairly extreme at times and Ive gotten pretty good at diffusing and letting it wash over me. I can't ever imagine myself abusing anyone back regardless of how wronged I would feel, I'd just be too scared. There are so many nut jobs out there and for me it's not worth it.

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    I tend to be a mix of zen & assertive with nut bags. I also have an 'avoid all eye contact' mantra that seems to work quite well ;-)

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    I tried to explain to him that I wasn't stalking and was just doing my shopping and having trouble trying to find what I was looking for. But all he wanted to do was call me a F. .g d..head, idiot etc etc. Then he asked me what country I was from and when I said it doesn't matter what country I am from he started to go on about how I must be a certain nationality and a communist because communists like to follow people and watch what they are doing etc etc. I do now think he has some issues!
    There were staff members around but no one said anything.
    Thanks for all the replies. I think I just had to get it out of my system and not think about it any more.

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    I think the word 'stalking' would have had me back down and assume he was mentally unwell and if he was concerned that I was stalking him I wouldn't have wanted to add to any fear he might have held. However, if it was someone just being horrible and I didn't have my kids with me then I would have held my ground and quite politely and calmly ripped into them. I don't like people chopping away at my self esteem these days so would need to step up.

    I have been at a theme park and was quietly setting up a picnic for the kids when a young woman took offence to us being 'too close to her' and 10 of her family members. She was pretty 'rough' and had a mouth like a sewer. Looking at the rest of the family I made a judgement call, apologised and moved our picnic well away. Later that day her 'grandad' ended up having a fist fight with one of his sons. So I think holding my ground depends on the context and circumstance as well as my mood.

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