My ex bf was like this and we weren't even living together. I'm on a carers pension for my son who is autistic and he thought I should get of my lazy **** and go get a job when my son goes to school during the day. But what he dint get was there's 12 weeks of holidays, plus weekends, pupil free days and public holidays that I couldn't work, as well as if he's sick or could be sent home because of his behaviour or has appointments in school hours.
He worked 24/7 running his own business and never had any time for me, and when he did it was only for a few hours at a time. He wanted me to keep the house spotless, expected me to be a good gf who didn't argue, do what I was told or I would be punished as he saw fit, which usually meant stuff that was degrading towards me. He never liked me calling him out on how I was being treated and that it wasn't the Victorian era and women had rights. I mean if you come over at 12pm or later u thing I'm going to want s@x with you have another thing coming, n he got offended that I didn't find him attractive anymore.
In the end it didn't feel like a relationship to me as I was always being put last, he never kept promises he made to me and my ds, something would always come up with work that was more important. He wanted to have kids with me, n when I said what would the point be as we would never come first, as work always would. 2 weeks ago I badly sprained my ankle at dance class and had to be taken to hospital by ambulance with ds in tow, I was discharged and on crutches, and he ignored all my calls and texts asking to be picked up as he deemed it was not an emergency. Then he demanded I get him a contract phone on my telstra account as his one had broken and he he needed a new one and when I said no I was called selfish.
He sent me a 2 messages the night I dumped him that summed him up perfectly the first was "Well I hope you find someone that wants someone that doesn't believe work is important and someone that likes dirty houses and someone that doesn't believe she should work and just thinks about herself" the second was "you shouldn't ***** about people who go to work, when you, sit on your butt and do nothing."
My house is never dirty, just a chaotic mess. And I don't ***** about people who go to work, I just have a problem with guys that work so much that they sacrifice their relationship with their gf/partner/wife. I mean spending time with ur partner/gf is just as important as working, but there needs to be a balance so that your partner doesn't feel neglected and less important, as they should feel just as important to their partner and not play second best to a workaholic.
I love spending quality time with my partner whether it be watching a dvd at home or going for a drive and doing something.He worked so much that I rarely sawe never did anything when he was here, we didn't watch movies or anything on the couch, had a meal as a family, or just us alone when my ds was in bed or even go out together in public or with d.s.
The funny thing is his pervious gf before me ended up cheating on him because he worked too much and ended up not having any time for her.
He doubt he will ever find a girl that will accept being treated like a second class citizen who feels less important than his work that he has to do 24/7 and feels like she can never compete with is job and rarely spend time with her etc.