I have a 7week old baby boy. I remember with my first baby I never encouraged self settling and regretted it later when she woke all night long wanting me. So this time I really want to get babe self settling ASAP. I let him demand feed and sleep wherever for the first 4weeks and after then we began trying to get him into the cot- it just won't work. We had a sleep consultant come over and teach us her way and as much as she have great tips and advice her technique was a bit too harsh for me. Too much leaving him to cry. I met her half way and this is what we attempt each sleep time. We do feed-awake-sleep, he sleeps in our room which is nice and dark. when I see a tired sign we wrap firmly and go and have quiet cuddles and singing in our room for a few minutes to wind down, then into the cot drowsy but awake. The screaming begins.. We walk away door closed for 4mins, then if still going, we turn on 'the sounds of silence' cd loudly and wait 4mins. If still crying (which he always is) we go into room, turn music down, offer dummy and pat pat pat until he falls asleep within a few minutes. Then every 10-15mins for the entire sleep time he wakes screaming and we do that all over again. Usually after the forth cycle of this I'm over it and I get him up. He isn't hungry he feeds well and I have plenty of breast milk. We have done this over and over and he won't learn to self settle at all. Overnight he is better but it's because he is falling asleep on the boob and doesn't wake when I put him back in the cot between feeds. He usually sleeps 4hours at beginning of the night then every 2hours after that. Sometimes overnight he's not feeding he's just suckling to fall asleep.
i am torn between continuing what feels like torturing him because maybe he will get it soon and learn to self settle or is trying this for a few weeks indication enough that he just can't do it .
I should mention if I ever pick him up and pat and jiggle or wear him in carrier he sleeps perfectly.