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    I wouldn't put up with it either, next party your child may be the one watching on

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    I drew the line on drugs once we became parents. He needs to pull his head in and think about the what ifs....what if you went into labour while he was off his face? What if he's off his face and baby has a medical emergency? If he's grown up enough to have children then he needs to take responsibility.

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    Yeah all the what if's are scary. Thats another reason why I was angry. He wasnt thinking.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Annommous View Post
    He did it because his brother told him to
    He did it because he chose to. Whether there be pressure from the brother, he still made the choice.

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    I can't comment on your situation as I don't tolerate being around drugs full stop, but my dh went to a men's only parenting class & the one thing he took away was - in the last trimester he needs to be sober at all times so he can take me to the hospital at the drop of a hat. He said he would never forgive himself if I went into labour & I had to take myself because he was drunk. Maybe you could bring up something along these lines with your partner? Might make it hit home that he has responsibilities now to his own family that override his brother?

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    Rosey I have tried that. But he doesnt listen. When his brother says jump then my DP asks how high. I have tried telling DP he changes when he is around his brother. But he says no he doesnt. He is blind to that fact.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Annommous View Post
    Yeah this is our first baby. I hope he grows up. I dont think I would let DP take baby unsupervised to his brothers place. I dont trust his brother at all. Even though his brother has 2 kids. But I just wont feel safe.
    I wouldn't either. You said your brothers kids were asleep when he pushed your DP into doing the speed, so he obviously has no problem being drug affected when his own kids are around, why would he be any different with your child.

    I worry more for the fact that your DP has no ability to think for himself when his brother is around. If he is going to treat his family like number 1 and you as number 2 then more problems will arise later. What if his brother disagrees with you in some parenting aspect, is he going to take his brothers side over yours then too?

    Not trying to be mean, but it sounds like your DP needs to grow up and realise that you and your baby should be the people he most cares about, not what his brother thinks.

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    Yeah I worry about that as well. I hope DP starts thinking for himself soon and realise that his brother is wrong and that he needs to grow a pair. He is going to be a dad and no dad would act the way he is atm. It sucks he is away atm. I really need to talk to him about this. But I dont wanna do it over the phone. So will have to wait.

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    Your partner sounds remarkably like my ex.

    He used to do small amounts of weed, then it became the occasional bit of Meth, and when told him absolutely NOT, he just did it behind my back. Gradually his use became more and more (interstate truckie) to the point that when he would come home at the weekends he was an emotional mess, coming off the drugs, and was aggressive towards me and the boys, it was really scary. Stupidly I still didn't realise the drugs were happening (It's great when everyone finally tells you when you have split up!!) so was always trying to 'fix' the relationship and myself etc.

    Of course it was doomed.

    Please be very careful. Watch carefully for signs of more drug use, and make a decision about what line you are not OK with him crossing, and stick to it. Raising a child in a household with a drug user is really not fun, and it is absolutely no good for your self worth, and a terrible environment for children.

    Take care, put yourself and your child's safety and wellbeing first at all times. Sometimes loving someone is not enough if they cannot act like an adult.
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    Yeah that is my biggest fear is that it will become a regular thing and I know I wont cope with that and would leave with the baby and I would also make sure he never sees his child again. Because drugs and kids dont mix. So I will be making sure I know the signs and keep an eye out for them. Its just sad that this kind of stuff is so widely available here where we live.


 

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