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    Default Need to vent (No Negative comments please)

    Hi ladies,

    I created this profile to stay anonymous because I am close to a few people who use this.

    Vent following-
    So on Saturday me and my partner went to his brothers house for a party. Yeah that is all well and good even though we have some history. The night went well till about 2am. My partners brother is sadly into some hard core drugs and yes his brother has children. So his brother crushed up a pill of speed and like always my partner didnt listen to his crying pregnant partner and obeyed his brother by doing a line right infront of me. So I lost it. Doors slamming and screaming. I brought up some stuff infront of people I shouldnt have. I am struggling to cope with what my partner did. There was a lot of things before this incident as well. I wont leave him because I love him to death. I just need some advice on how to cope. Because I am losing the plot.

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    This may be negative but that's a deal breaker for me. No questions asked, no apologies accepted.

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    So your partner did a line of speed in front of you after you said not to? Is that right or the brothers missus? Drugs is a deal breaker for me. Not much advice though. I hope it works out though

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jenga View Post
    This may be negative but that's a deal breaker for me. No questions asked, no apologies accepted.
    Completely agree ^

    The is no way I would be able to cope with that. Huge hugs for you xx

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    Is your partner an addict? or an addict in the past? If that were the case then i completely understand why you are so angry as I would be as well.

    But if it's just the very rare occasional thing, then i wouldn't be upset personally. Just like drinking alcohol, everything in moderation. But dependence is a different ball game. But at the end of the day it's what you're comfortable with. If you were crying and begging him to not have any yet he still did, then there's more going on there than just the drug use. Complete disregard for your feelings is also the issue.

    I have no advice on how to 'cope' with my feelings being completely disregarded. To be frank that wouldn't be good enough in my books. I wouldn't cope with it, and if it kept happening id be showing DH the door.

    You clearly feel very strong about this and he should be respecting that.

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    Yeah my partner did a line of speed right infront of me when I explicitly said no to it.

    My partner seems to change when he is around his brother.

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    No he is not addict. It was a once off. But he ignored my feelings on the subject. Yes he was already drunk when this all went down. But no alcohol should blind your judgment like that. He did it because his brother told him to.

    Plus like he has told me when he was sober. He doesnt want me to run his life. But we have a baby on the way and he does stuff like this. I dont think I trust him with having baby on his own when he goes to his brothers place.
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    Personally, I wouldn't put up with a partner who did drugs. How would you be able to trust him alone with your child when he/she is born? What example is he setting?

    If it's a huge problem for you, and it sounds like it is, you need to talk to him. During the day, when he's sober, I would try as calmly as I can to explain how this is unacceptable behaviour that you won't be putting up with. If he's not willing to give up drugs for you and your child, then some tough decisions need to be made.

    I know you love him, but your child has to be number 1 now, and personally I just wouldn't feel right having my child around that. He needs to know just how serious this is for you. I hope he understands

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    Hugs hun. I would recommend some counselling for you initially to help make sense of whats happening and your feelings. I would recommend that you consider where your boundaries lie. It sounds like you are unhappy with drug use but havent decided that its a deal breaker.

    Will he participate in counselling with you?

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    I honestly dont know if he would come to counciling. He knows where I stand on the subject. But like he put it. Its his last big party so he wanted to go all out. But this was just to far. I dont want to run his life and tell him what to do. But you should know better.


 

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