I'm still going through the family court and will have an adversarial hearing next month. My ds aged 7 complains that he doesn't want to go to his dad's as much as he does and everytime he is returned home he flies through the door and just wants to sit/lay on me for as long as he can. It breaks my heart. At dad's he gets put in time out in a dark laundry, has to sleep in his own bed (which is fine) but if he wakes in the night scared he just gets sent back to his own room and if he's sick he's told he can't get out of bed and is to stay laying down. My ds has also told me that the other kids (the new gf's older girls) will dish out ice cream and just give my son an empty bowl. They think it's hilarious. Ds refuses to sleep in his own room when at home and in the past few months he has had night terrors from anywhere between every 2nd night to 3 times each night. My dd (23 months) doesn't go for sleepovers but she too runs inside on her return and has night terrors 2-4 times per night- sometimes waking sometimes not. I have taken my son to see a child psych who has encouraged ds to tell his father how he feels about certain things but my ds has come home deflated saying his dad didn't listen and didn't care about his feelings and told ds that ds better just get used to things as they are now. I think this post was triggered by going to my son's footy this afternoon. I knew his dad would be there so I told ds he would be. When ds got out of the car and saw his dad he clung to me and began to cry. I told him not to look at his dad and we would just focus on looking at his coach till he was safely with his team. His dad kept his distance and I watched my son keeping a wary eye out for his dad the whole time.
I'm doing every possible legal and practical thing for my kids but it just breaks my heart to see my children so affected by their fathers behaviour knowing also that they have to regularly see their dad even when they don't often want to. Anyone else want to share their story?