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    Default Self weaning?

    Bub is 10.5 months old. Up until 4 weeks ago I was breastfeeding her 5 x per 24hrs. Then I returned to work twice a week. On my off days I dropped her feeds to 3x day. When I was at work (despite leaving ebm in a bottle and formula for her lunch time feed she refused the bottle) she only fed twice a day. She will happily drink water from a bottle or sippy cup but not milk.

    But now she is refusing the breast altogether. The last time I fed her was Thursday night. She refused her Friday morning and night feed (work day) and then refused this mornings feed too.

    Is this it? I'm not ready to give up breastfeeding her but it seems she might be I was hoping to at least get to 12 months.

    I can't pump to keep my supply up as my pump just broke. She is teething so maybe it's sore for her? She is eating tons too. Limiting her food doesn't seem right and anyway, I've tried feeding her first thing in the morning and she still won't take it.

    Any help or advice would be really appreciated.

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    Babies very rarely self wean this young and self weaning is a gradual process- not a sudden one. I think what you have here is a nursing strike. Brb with links

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    http://drjaygordon.com/breastfeeding...g-strikes.html

    http://kellymom.com/bf/concerns/child/back-to-breast/

    http://www.education.com/magazine/ar...ursing-strike/

    Some great advice here ^^

    Many bubs go through these strikes, but they do come back to the breast, have a read. I find knowing what's going on can help give me the patience and understanding to get through it. Are you able to hire or borrow a pump if replacing it isn't an option? Manual pumps are quite cheap too.

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    Thank you for the links. I've had a read and it does sound like a nursing strike.

    I managed to get my silly pump to work long enough to express both sides this morning. I will try and give her a dream feed tonight.

    Since this started though, I have been feeling a bit upset. I feel useless to bub. I feel like she likes dh more than me (which is fine) but we used to have such a great bond. How can those feelings change so quickly? I've been making excuses to go out and be away from her which is really sad. Tomorrow will be my first full day with her (and no dh) and I'm scared/nervous/feel sick about how it will go. Is this a normal reaction or am I being over the top?

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    Dd just fed :smiledance:

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    I think it's normal to feel a bit rejected during a strike but I'm sure it will pass with the strike Glad she fed! Fx it's all over!

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    I'm not sure where to go from here or what I should be doing now.
    Dd will only take a dream feed. I'm grateful that she does and last night I was in tears when she was feeding. But she won't take the breast during the day. I offer and am met with biting (if she goes near it at all), screaming and pushing away. I can feel my supply dropping. I'm drinking tons of water and taking fenugreek tablets. I'm feeling stressed and I know it's not helping my supply. Please help.

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    If she's biting it could very well be her teeth bothering her. DS did the same thing around then when he was cutting teeth.

    It is heart breaking to feel like they don't want you anymore. But it did pass and we are still going now at 17 months.

    You could try freezing a damp washer and giving it to her before offering a feed to chew on.

    Also, have you had af back yet? Apparently the milk can taste different before and during so that could also be the cause.

    Try not to stress, easier said than done I know, I'm sure it will pass. And if your supply drops a little from this it can pick back up again when she starts feeding again.

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    You are doing a great job, must be hard. I think if you are keeping up the one feed a day that's great. Your supply is likely to increase when she wants to feed more.

    For what its worth My bub is a similar age and has 3ish feeds a day. Lots of friends bubs same age only have 2.

    I don't have heaps of advice sorry

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    Thanks, your reply gives me a bit of hope.
    I've had one cycle since bf. Af is due tomorrow so it could be that as well. Does this mean the strike will continue until Af is over?
    I'm just getting more worried as each day passes that she forgets how to nurse or that she should want to nurse.


 

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