No I didn't. Maybe I need to do that.
No I didn't. Maybe I need to do that.
We've just arrived in CT, after our week of safari and then on the Garden Route. This is such a gorgeous country to drive through. Very impressed.
Lining scan at 12 tomorrow. Suddenly it feels really all upon us. I'm excited to be getting started tomorrow but already really anxious about the outcome.
KLM, definitely cc dr W in to your emails. Have you tried calling Cyndi directly? I did that a fair bit when I didn't get email responses. I had an agonizing time too, waiting for feedback, but when it came to the really important stuff they did get in touch. Unfortunately our ideas on what is 'important' are not always the same. Like you, we were up against it with booking flights, accom and annual leave.
My sympathies with worrying about embryos falling out. It may help to remember that ambryos are physically sticky. I've read that the catheters they use are lined with nasa grade teflon and they still sometimes stick to that, that's why they have a good check to make sure the embryo is out of it before they remove the catheter. Makes it pretty hard to fall out of you when they are that sticky. Not that it will remove all paranoia. You are lucky ladies, those of you who have a DH to take your tablet and laptops away! I remember frantically googling blastie grading when I really should have had my feet up.
I don't think I could cope with lack of contact. Communication is a passion of mine and any lack of it and my anxiety hits the roof! Hope you hear back soon KLM.
My loan refinance has finally been processed and I'm currently debt free! It is quite an amazing feeling. I use quicken and can see from my budget that I should have a bit of savings at the end of the year too. As for moving on, I'm doing OK at the moment. I belong to a couple of lovely google+ groups. One is quite creative and I feel very supported when life gets a bit much. I am still on Egg donation Australia forum and attending their occasional meet-ups while I take a year off trying anything. Some of them are quite resistant to the idea that I might move on without a baby which I find curious and at times a bit challenging. My initial dream before trying motherhood was to be debt free and enjoying the lack of financial stress. Getting the maternal urge the way I did was quite a shock. TTC really changed things and in many ways I'm OK to be going back to Life Plan A. I won't deny the wish is still there but I don't feel driven like I used to.
Anyway I stopped by see how everyone was going and search for info. I'm in a bit of disagreement with someone on EDA over the viability of overseas egg donation as opposed to cycling in Australia. This person keeps contradicting me on threads when I say that going overseas is a viable option to cycling with a donor in Australia. Their focus is mainly on costs but I feel even there that countries like Greece and South Africa are still financially viable alternatives once everything is taken into account. If anyone can back me up with research they've done or comparative costs to cycling both here and in South Africa, I'd really appreciate it.
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I used gestone in Barbados and did a lot of reading about it before going. It is hard to disperse in the body which is why it makes lumps in the first place, gentle rubbing should help push it along a bit but it can take some time to come down (several months I've read). The itching may be your body working at getting rid of it. Have you tried some anti-hystamine. If it is an allergic reaction that might help. Sorry, this is all probably too late for you.
I had to do my own injections and couldn't reach to do them where they suggested so had to use the thigh. I really rubbed after each injection so didn't get much lumping and being in a more active muscle meant it dispersed better so any lumps went down in a few days.
My sympathies that you are finding it hard right now Blinky. When you are travelling overseas, I think the venture is bigger and you invest so much more in every way, the let-down can be massive. Be kind to yourself.
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MrsErin, hope all went well for scan
Good to hear from you Nett, glad to hear you are getting back on track with finances and life. Don't let people discourage what you believe in. It might be a bit cheaper to get donors in Australia but you then have to have someone forever potentially entwined in your lives. I started down that path, I advertised for some donors and I was lucky to get replies from amazing ladies, however I didn't go ahead after one told me how her partner also donated her eggs and they had been to the child's birthday party. Yeh, bit too close for me. That's what made me think I'd prefer it to be anonymous and to go with SA option.
But everyone is different, and of course it's a different story altogether if using a sister or friend's eggs. That wouldn't have bothered me at all, I just didn't have anyone young enough Lol.
Ok, so I was going crazy with the waiting to hear from Cyndi, so I followed up with my fertility coordinator here in Aus. She sent an email to Cyndi asking for an update - amazing! I got a c.c reply from Cyndi saying she wasn't aware we had paid! (We paid on 12th May!) OMG I was seething!!!! So I rang her. (Don't worry, I was very nice) I stayed calm, but just asked her how that happens and what happens now. She assured me there wouldn't be any change to the dates and they will get the donor in ASAP to be screened. Phew! But if I had of waited longer - who knows!
Despite the no replies etc. Cyndi did seem really nice. So I'm all good again.
I'm desperate to get our flights sorted. We both need to put in our leave. I'm telling my boss tomorrow too - yikes!
Ok, way too much from me! Sorry for the overload but hearing that tonight just got me worked up.
Hope you are all well and on track
KLM, glad to hear you're on track now although that is a pretty big misunderstanding about payment! We also had dramas that meant they had to rush a screening through too...and they really did rush it when it was needed.
My scan today showed my lining as 7mm which is a little thinner than they'd like. They've started me on Viagra for the next 2 days to hopefully thicken it up. (DH finds this hilarious)
I've been scouring the internet for uterine lining tips. May start on some pomegranate juice tonight, combined with some egg, avocado and a big iron-rich steak!
Good news is that our donor is responding well too, and pick up is as scheduled, Wednesday.
GirlfromSydney - congratulations!!! Wow what great numbers too.
KLM - how frustrating for you. I am so glad you got through. Hmmm how do they not realise you have paid!! I can understand the frustration of just wanting to get your flights booked etc.
MrsErin - Sounds like it is all going to plan. I am sure your lining will be fine. Never heard of using Viagra for that - how funny!
Hi to everyone else. Had our counselling session on Sat and we passed. Phew. She brought up a lot of things we hadnt thought of like how are we going to tell ppl we got preggers, when will we tell ppl. Will we tell the child etc. Stuff I had parked "over there" for after but I guess we really need to start thinking about now. Felt like an idiot as we hadnt thought about this actually. It just been such a journey to get there. But then it may not work...... Oh god no wonder I parked it - too hard to think about!
Dear Biba Sunflower11 Cloggy05 Helonweels
Best of luck for your 2WW - dont worry Biba - I was told its like a seed being stuck in honey - it won't fall out.
Good luck too for Thembs and Erin
GirlfromSydney, that sounds really good, congratulations
I hope I have not missed anyone, had a bit of catching up to do - been a bit hectic for me lately but all good
Well it's unfortunately a BFN for us.
Had my (late) beta why came back at 2!!! Having a repeat test tomorrow just to be sure but I know in my heart that this cycle is a no-no.. It really couldn't have any other outcome due to our bereavement..
Not sure when we will head back to CT but we will.. Just need to take stock!
So sorry to hear about your BFN Helonwheels. Take care.
girl from Sydney congrats on your success.
AFM, i am in Europe and am not testing till i am back in aus, so extended 2ww. Dont know but am keeping up the meds.
good luck to everyone one else.
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