My DH's teenage boys have a poor habit of waiting around to be fed for every meal when they are with us on weekends.
Luckily they seem to have finally gotten the idea that unless we have specifically said we'll do a cooked breakfast the next day, they are welcome to help themselves to a variety of cereals, muesli, toast, fruit, yoghurt, etc whenever they get up.
There's always plenty of salad vegetables, cheese, bread, wraps, noodles, soups, cans of beans, spaghetti, etc on hand for them to make lunch for themselves but they just don't seem interested unless someone else does it for them. They might finally realise about 4pm in the afternoon that neither of us is going to hand them a plate of food, so they'll start raiding the pantry for biscuits or eat a couple of packets of noodles each only a couple of hours from dinner time!
It's very frustrating for DH & I when we give them pretty much unlimited access to the fridge and pantry and try to provide a range of healthy choices for them. Luckily we don't live down the road from the shops any more as they would walk down and buy themselves hot chips, iced coffees, lollies and other cr@p to eat.
They are more than old enough to be learning how to look after themselves and we consider cooking a pretty essential life skill. We have tried encouraging them to spend time in the kitchen with us, choose recipes for dinner and help to make it, but they just don't seem interested in learning anything about cooking or nutrition beyond whatever they can stick in a microwave and inhale in minutes.
Does anyone have any ideas how we can get them to accept more responsibility for what goes into their mouths, and/or some healthy lunch ideas which will be attractive to teenage boys?