My saviour was a hug-a-bub! DS2 lived in a wrap for probably the first 4 months of his life. He was content when he was awake, slept when he needed to, and I had hands free to spend time with DS1. I had a basket of toys for DS1 in the living room and one in the bedroom, so he had toys handy to play with when I was bf'ing. Although he is pretty good at playing by himself, so keeping him entertained while feeding bub wasn't too big of a deal.
I involved DS1 as much as I could with 'caring' for DS2 (getting nappies etc). I bathed them separately for the first 5 or so months, because it was too hard having 2 in the bath. DS1 would 'help' bath DS2 early in the afternoon, then DS1 would have his normal bath after dinner.
I tried to prepare dinner during the day, because DS2 started 'witching' hour about 4pm through to 7pm, so trying to get dinner ready at normal time was a complete nightmare. We had lots of slow cooker meals that would last a couple of nights and lots of eggs on toast meals in the early days.
My best tip would be to get the older child involved and give them little jobs. Change times I got DS to hand me the wipes and choose a nappy, bath time he would help me get the towel out, choose clothes.
When I feed DD he just plays or we read a book.
Babywearing was a life saver in the first couple of months so I could be more hands on with DS when DD was having a bad day.
I prep dinner during DDs last nap of the day.
While I was pregnant I cooked and froze a lot of meals so in those first crazy few weeks we didn't have to worry too much about cooking.
I have a 22mth gap and I often parented solo as dh was frequently away.
Every morning I would pack the toddler some snacks and lunch. We would head out around 7-7.30am to the shops/park/playgroup/library till 11 ish. I'd walk most of the time with my tandem pram so I would get some decent exercise as well. Occ I would bus or train it to give my toddler an outing.
Tire the toddler out all morning and would feed lunch whilst out. Head home for naps. All three of us would sleep 11.30-2 ish. Then we would play at home or whatever.
Newbie would be in carrier or pram around the house. Or in rocker in the playpen away from toddler.
I'd bath both together from day dot. Just dunk newbie in then quick wipe dry whilst toddler in bath. Feed baby in bathroom then pop them in bassinet. I used the car capsule cos I could rock it with my foot to resettle or put bub to sleep. Then dress toddler, book then bed.
wifey of hubby who is always away. mother of two girls who are always amusing.
Bub lived in the baby sling till he was too heavy! I wouldn't have survived without it! And Dora DVDs!
Keep to your toddlers routine and work bub around it. Try to get them both asleep at some stage during day for your own sanity lol I used to feed and sleep with bub in my bed during dd's day sleep. Basically the day stopped for a few hrs from 12-3pm! It was lovely.
Let toddler help. We got dd a doll and a nursery set for Xmas. Was best idea!
Organize yourself the night before, pack snacks and have an easy lunch option.
Ziplock bags with veggies, sandwich, cut up veggies or pizza scrolls I didn't bother cooking lunch.
If you can get out or have someone over for a play date in the morning do it so your toddler gets some stimulation.
Definitely get a rocker of bouncer. A doll because they like to copy mum. And the tv love peppa pig and I'm not ashamed lol
at some stage while baby sleeps do an activity or something one on one with the older one, could even be as simple as a book and cuddles or helping you do the dishes but I find my DD is more affectionate towards her brother if get that one on one time.
bath time I'd bath separately while one sleeps. Now DS is older (5months) the bath together. I take him out and wrap him up then get her out and let her dry herself while I get him dressed then he goes to a toy and I get her dressed.
Honestly you'll figure it out, it's not as bad as I thought it was going to be!
Mrs Summer (24-03-2014)
Bathing, when bub was little I would get her done and in bed before my older one as she would cry a lot, but now she's few months old both at same time.
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