I'll probably get shot down for this, but I think SAHMs make more sense in that young children need a primary carer, and in most cases, it is better than it be the mother, providing she is not deranged/alcoholic etc. As mothers are also usually the ones breastfeeding. This doesn't mean that workplaces shouldn't be family friendly and give the father more time at home too.
But I think parental leave should be paid at a base rate for three years, as children going to a lot of daycare younger than that, it's not ideal.
Again, they're just my opinions, doesn't mean that they are correct.
@ZAK I'll let my DH know that he is useless for the first 3 years of our son's life.
I honestly think you are delusional
ETA are you lobbying for closing down all childcare for children younger than 3yo and reallocating the funds to SAHMs?
Your statement really angered on behalf of all men and fathers.
Last edited by ExcuseMyFrench; 01-05-2014 at 18:46.
Well, I didn't say that, you are twisting my words. I am huge on fathers playing an important role in their children's life. Reread please.
Am I in favour of closing daycare facilities for children under two? Yes, actually.
There is family day care, and you still can work.
This is MY opinion, and we have had different life experiences which is why both of our opinions are valid.
I'm off, as I'm not really that keen on debating.
At around two to three years' a child's social development goes through the roof, and they become more ready for institutionalised care - the whole being in a group dynamic/I am part of wider society thing. I am not telling women to stay home. I'm just saying that a home like environment is, I believe, better for an under two/threer. That is, with one carer, and not too many other children, and without such a stringent routine. Daycare centres even in the early years tend to be more routine than FDC, and little minds don't need that yet.
I am liking FDC. I have an FDC carer and another FDC carer if we need emergency care. We all help look after each other's children and with the emergency carer, are friends and catch up on weekends. I trust them with my children, it's like a supportive community of women who look out for one another. I worked in daycare too prior to LO, have sinced changed careers, that may be adding to why I don't like seeing the little ones in care. Two years plus it becomes beneficial. I didn't feel like the young ones thrived in the nursery at all - staff ratios just didn't allow it. Toddler room got a bit better.
Zak: have your kids been in a daycare when they were under 2?
Staff ratios are the same whether they're in childcare centre or a family daycare.
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