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    Quote Originally Posted by BigRedV View Post
    Gish, I can't even imagine a 15 month old needing to be punished???

    My daughter is 15 months old!

    No it's me that needs punishing apparently.

    And the way to do this is by cancelling visitation.

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    Your ex sounds like a complete douche ! I would refuse to allow him visitation until you have mediation and get a parenting plan in writing ! Does he actually WANT to spend time with his child or does he do it just so he's doing you a ' favour ' ?

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    We've got a court approved parenting order that we came to when we went to mediation (I had to go to court for a recovery order in May13 when he took off with a fully breastfed DS); we came to an agreement easily during mediation. But that was in July 13 when DS was six and a half months old, so by law he only has him Saturday and Sunday for a few hours. Which is a bit silly for a 15 month old.

    Things were going well, and now this. We'd agreed on all this without the need for mediation. And once again, its 'my fault'.

    So we can go straight back to mediation as specified via our parenting orders, and they'll be court enforced again.

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    Oh man what a tool.

    Record this (and all similar) incidents - write down exactly what he said, how late you were, his behaviour etc.

    if he refuses when you turn up there, record that too and find alternative child care for today. Take it all along to mediation.

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    I know nothing about this sort of thing but I would strongly recommend keeping a diary of times, visitations and such comments so that you can use this if needed at mediation.

    Punishment? Seriously? What a twit!

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    I'm just so mad.

    I think that we'll just stay home today.

    I have been having enough trouble at DS new school (since day dot there actually), I don't need this on top.

    I am SO ****ED OFF!!!

    I don't feel like taking DS to school right now because of all the trouble going on.

    And I need to go to tafe.

    Would you cancel tomorrow's visitation if a friend could look after him for the whole day?

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    Quote Originally Posted by ZAK View Post
    Would you cancel tomorrow's visitation if a friend could look after him for the whole day?

    You bet I would ! Maybe just tell him that he's not reliable and you AND ds need constancy and a routine.

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    To me it seems like he is manipulating your anger because he knows you need him on these days which gives him power over you. If it were me I would let him know that your kids are your number one priority and you value all your time with them. If he doesn't feel the same then you can rework your visitation agreement. It sounds like if you get sorted with fdc you'll take away his power over you and he will have to decide what he really wants from his relationship with your ds. Big hugs.

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    So your being punished by him cancelling HIS visit time? Ah yeh okay... Have to agree what douche. I wouldn't drop him over & use someone else

    Defiantly make sure you note that down. You have every right to be furious. I'm furious and I don't even know the jerk!

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    Hey guys!

    Thank you for all your advice. I just stayed home today and called up fdc providers. I met a lovely lady today who had vacancies, but DS is accident prone and she has steep yard/concrete, so I am passing on that one unfortunately. I'm very picky, I wish I wasn't.

    DS is going to his dad's tomorrow as I need him looked after, but I'll keep looking at fdc. I am still undecided about mediation. He did just shoot himself in the foot with visitation, I mean, I'm not a SAHM so he's not going to get Saturday AND Sunday, so effectively,he's stuck himself with one day to see his son because he's not reliable. Of course this will now be my fault and me trying to stop him from seeing him. You can't win. And I can't skip daycare otherwise we'd lose ccb.


 

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